Martha - posted on 10/31/2013 ( no moms have responded yet )
I found this site by googling " my 18 year old daughter decided to move out and life with her boyfriend and his parents". I had no idea that so many Moms share the same pain. Reading the stories on here brought tears to my eyes, as most of them are exactly the same like mine. My daughter turned 18 last december, decided to drop out of highschool, thankfully got her GED, and now lives with her boyfriend and his parents somewhere in the country, in a trailer. Neither her nor her boyfriend have regular jobs, just some odd part time work on occasion. She only calls me when she needs money. I allowed her and her boyfriend to live here in our house for a while, with the stipulation that they both have to find work. Well, that didn't happen. I work fulltime, my husband (her stepdad) works offshore, we have a nice house with plenty of room. We had a few rules, i.e. keep your rooms clean, do your laundry, don't leave dishes in the sink ect. they couldn't even comply with that. He got a job for a few weeks and got fired. She worked at McDonald's, but after a couple of weeks quit, as she got tired of it.
So after an arguement between myself and my daughter they decided to move out and live with his parents. She told me once she misses me terribly and wants to move back home, but when I responded that she is welcome, alas her boyfriend would not be allowed to move back again, she stopped talking to me.
Sometimes I wonder what happened to that sweet, loving little girl I raised. I miss my daughter so much and cry almost every day. This big house is so empty without her. But I feel that I can't give in, for fear that the same thing like before will happen again.
Any advice ? Am I too strict ?