Not Fair

Symone - posted on 08/03/2014 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Hey everybody. I'm actually not a mom, but hope to be one someday. I made an account to ask questions to see situations from a different point of view. To see what other moms would say/do if they were in this situation.

With that being said, I am a female that just turned 18. I will be going off to college later on this month, and I do live with my parents. Before my birthday my parents told me while I live in their house I couldn't get any other tattoos or piercings until I get my own place. Now, I don't know why all of a sudden they made this rule because they let me get my tragus and industrial pierced. Little do they know I have my tongue and tongue web pierced. I don't understand why I have to wait until I'm on my own to get piercings or tattoos. I'm 18, and I can do whatever I want with my body.

Yes, I know tattoos are permanent, I need to make sure this is the tattoo I want to get, It will be on my body for the rest of my life blah blah blah. I know this so PLEASE don't lecture me on that.

All I want to know is what are your rules on piercings and tattoos and do you think this is a fair rule?

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Ev - posted on 08/03/2014

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I never had to worry about tattoos and piercings other than those in the ears with my own daughter. SHe was 19 before she got brave enough to get her ears done. As for doing the tattoos, she is so afraid of needles that the things they use to make the tattoos would be considered the same in her eyes and she won't do one.

As pertaining to the rules of the house if you live there while going to school, it is your parents house and they will expect you to adhere to what they want followed as far as rules go. Yes, you are an adult and as an adult you are expected to know how to follow rules of anywhere you are such as a job, place you live, things like this. Its only right that you respect their rules. As for it pertaining to your wanting tattoos or piercings, you should sit down and talk to them.

Also going on this No Fair: Life is not fair. No one is going to just give in to what you want when you want it. Things do not always go how we want them and we have to learn to just deal with it and go on.

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Lori - posted on 08/06/2014

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as a parent with adult children still at home - plain and simple:

my house, my rules...if you don't like it, you can move out. also, life is not fair so move on.

Symone - posted on 08/04/2014

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Evelyn I know you didn't. It's just sometimes when I hear myself talk I'm like did I really just say that ? Thanks for comment. I just needed to hear someone else's input. I'm not going to get the tattoo because I do respect my parents. Respect is earned not given

Ev - posted on 08/03/2014

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I never said that you were spoiled in any fashion. But when you still live at your parents home they will expect some respect for their home and rules. After high school, I lived in my parents home until I was 21. I worked, paid for my car and insurance, helped with chores, always let them know when I went out, where I was going, with whom, and what time to expect me back, if I was not coming home that night I told them were I was going and staying. It was more for safety reasons than them telling me what to do. My sister had the same treatment. I did not say they could tell you not to get tattoos and you had to abide that, you are an adult and can chose how to do that. But if you live in the home, I am sure they have some ground rules they want all to follow out of respect. And the truth about life being not fair, we all have points in our lives when we think things are not fair but we have to learn to deal with it and go on.

Symone - posted on 08/03/2014

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I understand where you're coming from. I tried to talk to them about it but all I get is a "what did I say?" ...To be honest it sounded like I was a spoiled brat the way my post was called

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