not happy at daycare

Jessica - posted on 02/24/2011 ( 12 moms have responded )

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my 19 month old little boy has been going to daycare 3 days a week for the last 2 months. Since hes started hes come home with a fat lip, bites on hes face and has been sent home 4 times for getting sick at daycare. I asked the women in charge what happened to hes lip? but she didnt know anything about it. The bites on hes face were really bad and when i picked seth up they pointed them out to me. the little girl that bit him has bitten before and i wasnt happy at all. i rang the daycare and asked if there was a plan we can start so this little girl doesnt do it again ever since i have confronted them, they havent been the same towards me. what should i do?

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Kimberly - posted on 02/25/2011

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I would find a new daycare! I worked in childcare for 7 years before my daughter was born (I'm a stay at home mom now) and for starters, they should never have told you who actually bit your child! Secondly, they should be making accident/incident reports on all injuries and actions, an accident report for your son saying he was bitten and an incident report for the girl saying that she'd done the biting. Then the daycare should have been working with the biter and her parents to find a solution for her behavior, most likely shadowing her and taking her away from the situations that cause her to bite. If they aren't at least doing these things, things that are actually required by law (at least where I am from), then you need to find a better place to take your child. You should not have to feel like you've done something wrong because your child is getting hurt.

Also, your child has only been going there for 2 months...you have to expect him to get sick lots and lots in the first few months. There's new germs he's not been exposed to and his little immune system isn't strong enough to battle them all at once. We would usually warn the parents that their child will probably be sick for awhile at the beginning, but after a few months the illnesses will slow down!

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Stifler's - posted on 02/27/2011

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ew i would get a new daycare. there's supposed to be incident reports for that sort of thing and if they couldn't come up with it i'd be putting in a complaint.

Shastin - posted on 02/27/2011

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If you are considering keeping them at that daycare then drop in unannounced or in the middle of the day a few times to see what the kids are doing. Are they happy & do you like the atmosphere? If you want to take them elsewhere you should be comfortable with where you child is cared for. The communication sounds miserable. I have a home daycare and you should have a good working relationship with the care takers. I always explain why I am sending them home sick and it is hard to know at that age if it is teething or really sickness. No matter what happends you need to feel like you have some sort of communication and understanding of what's going on. Lots of cities have Early Childhood Connections or other businesses that can help you find licensed home daycare providers. Rememer to drop in at an odd time to see what is going on at daycares you are interested in. Good luck.

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remove him and find another facility if you HAVE to have him in daycare. If you can stay home with him, DH, or even one of you all's parents that would be best. IMO

Sharon - posted on 02/25/2011

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I agree, find a new daycare if you can. our little guy is 16mths and has been going to daycare 3 days a week for the past year. He's had a tooth through his lip (when learning to walk), had his leg bitten and picked up all the bugs & flus going around. But, there as always been an 'incident' report that was filled out, and we had to sign it to acknowledge that it happened, how it happened and what they did to rectify it (discipline & comfort).
I think you need to have complete confidence & trust in the people who are caring for your kids during the day, and if you don't have that, then I'd do anything I could to get them somewhere I felt alot better about.

Kimberly - posted on 02/25/2011

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Yup, Rebecca's right. Lots of children bite..what's more upsetting than the bites is the way this daycare is making this mom feel for being upset about it. It's absolutely NOT a part of their development/education!! They bite because they are teething or frustrated. Children bite for a reason and there are ways to stop it happening. A good daycare would know this...

Rebecca - posted on 02/25/2011

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yes children bite it is the way the daycare is handling it that is upsetting

Alison - posted on 02/25/2011

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I guess I am living on a different planet. My daughter has bitten and been bitten in her daycare, but no child has been excluded from it. IMO that is ridiculous, it is part of their development/education! And no one is to blame per se. I think the parents can try to discourage the behavior, but the greatest power is in the hands of the teachers. And I totally trust and respect all of the teachers.

Ultimately it is your decision and you are the best judge of the situation, but it is totally normal that it may take several months for your son to adapt. And try to maintain realistic expectations. If you don't like the general attitude and atmosphere, it is probably time to look for something else.

Rebecca - posted on 02/25/2011

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LOL I should have read to the bottom I almost could have copy pasted your reply

Rebecca - posted on 02/25/2011

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find a new daycare I have worked at daycare for 7 years they should have policies to deal with these situations you should be given accident reports to sign and the teachers should be working with you and the little girls parents to make sure it doesn't happen again

Louise - posted on 02/25/2011

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If this girl has bitten another child before then normally it is policy for that child to be excluded from day care as she is a danger to other children. Also if your child is injured at all during the time he is there then he should have all injuries in the accident book. The fact that they did not notice his lip is worrying enough. I would also look for another day care this is not acceptable. As for the sickness this is quite normal when your child goes to a new day care as they are exposed to lots of new viruses that they have not built up an immunity to.

Jodi - posted on 02/24/2011

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Can you find somewhere else for him? I'm sorry, but I wouldn't take my child back there. Any daycare that won't deal with these issues is not somewhere I would want my kid.

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