Burmeister11 - posted on 10/28/2014 ( 5 moms have responded )
I am expecting my first child at 19. It took me by suprize as I'm sure its done to others. The man that got me pregnant was drunk and a verbally abusive man. I got out of the relationship as fast as possible. A month later I found out I got pregnant by him plus other things. When I confronted him about it he automatically thought it ment us getting back together which I strongly declined that to happen because of him being an alcoholic and thought playing video games was a good job. And being abusive I wasn't going to let it happen. Hes answer to this scared me and rubbed me in a wrong way. Saying that he always wanted to have a family. Almost sounding as though it was on propose. Anyways. After telling him the news I told him I wouldn't deny him the right to be apart of the pregnancy process but he has to show that he is willing to put the time into it. Like asking how things are going and trying to be apart of it himself. Well after not even 48 hrs after he disappeared not even his family knew where he was. Its been over two weeks sence this has happened. And because of this I am not wanting to put him on the birth certificate. For the fearvof one day he tries to take my baby from me. I have my own place a full time job and a great support system that agrees with me about my choices. My only issue is child suppor . I know not pitting him on the BC makes it harder to get it. But I'm not sure if I even want to go throuhh that prosses and to just do all of this on my own.