Not sitting up?! 8 months old.

Laura - posted on 04/25/2010 ( 40 moms have responded )

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My son is just over 8 months old. And he is not sitting up on his own yet, not even close. Whenever I sit him down he arches his back so much, he scoots forward... Then topples over. I've tried sitting behind him, to help him out a bit, but no success! I'm worried he's not reaching important milestones! Is this normal? Or am I right to worry?

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Kandace - posted on 04/27/2010

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I have to agree with Lisa, My daughter was behind on all her milestones and the Dr. kept telling me not to worry, at 3 she had a 16 minute long grand mal seizure and while in the hospital my Doctor had the gaul to come in and say "well, maybe you were right, I guess there may be something wrong after all" She was diagnosed with Cerebral Palsy 2 months later. You have insticts and intuitions as a mother, follow them and don't take no for an answer, ask for a second opinion if you don't agree with your Doctor. You have to be the mediator for your baby.

Tanith - posted on 05/03/2010

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There is a very wide range as to what is normal. Walking for example, anything from 9 to 18 months is normal. That's a very wide range...but it's normal.
Today's society, a spirit of rivalry and competition arose among mothers (and sometimes doctors). With food; it's to have the biggest baby who ate the most foods in the largest quantities at the earliest possible age. With development, there's comparisons too. Every child reaches his/her milestones at their own pace.

Andria - posted on 04/29/2010

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Of course you are right to worry its our right as moms. However I will say to help ease your mind a very close friend of mine has a daughter who is just over a year, at 8mo she was neither sitting up or turning over. At just under a year she began to walk. I dont believe there is a method to when they want to do it. When your child is ready he will surprise you with all he knows and you will feel silly for worrying. If you notice any other signifcant delays bring it to your Dr's attn $25 for ease of mind is cheap.

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I'd talk to your doctor about it. My son didn't sit up until 9months, and then I didn't discover until he was 2 years old that he had low muscle tone (hypotonia) in his upper body, which is common in kids. It meant he did a lot of things late, like hold a cup or other utensil, use a crayon, etc. We did therapy and he is better, but it's good to notice these things as young as possible so you can act on it.

Melissa - posted on 04/30/2010

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If you have concerns, go to your doctor. A mom's instinct is never wrong. If there is anything wrong then you are going to get help early on for your little one. If there is nothing wrong, you have checked it out and feel better.

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Mariah Danielle - posted on 03/06/2013

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if you ever have any concerns ask your doctor, as everyone has said every baby is different and reaches milestones differently so your doctor will know considering they have your childs chart and would know better than anyone on here if your child is behind or on track. my child isnt stting up yeat and hes 8 months old too im taking to to get a developmental test done

Jayde - posted on 05/02/2010

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don't stress too much my bub only started sitting by herself at 8nhalf months he'll get there

Laura - posted on 04/30/2010

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Thanks for all your help! :) We do have a bumbo chair and sit him in it quite frequently. He is about 20 lbs now, but short lol. No, he does not crawl, not even close. He has always liked his tummy time, but just recently started rolling from back to tummy. He rolled from tummy to back at about 4 months. We do have a jolly jumper also, and he used to just love it! :) Now he just stands there, and doesn't jump on his own unless we hold his hands and bounce him up, and down. Every doctor we've seen about concerns usually just brushes us off, and says everything's normal. Maybe they don't get that I'm genuinly concered. I know I am a first time mommy, and maybe I am just a worry wart. Lol. But his grandparents and great grandparents think he should be sitting on his own by now. I am taking their advice because I have never done this before.

Kelly - posted on 04/30/2010

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Hey, do not worry, my 8 month old has only just started sitting up by himself. He still looses his bablance unless he is propped up by a pillow or someone behind him. Just encourage him by propping him up, let him arch forwards slightly, thats what Ryan did to help develop his muscles. he will when he is ready x

Stacey - posted on 04/29/2010

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Try a bumbo. I had my daughter sitting in it at 4 months and put a "breakfast in bed" tray in front of her with toys. She loved it. We called it Going to School Time.

Ambrosia - posted on 04/28/2010

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If he can hold his head up, maybe you want to try putting him in a Bumbo chair. They're soft plastic and help babies sit up before they can actually sit. My daughter loved hers.

Jackie - posted on 04/28/2010

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all children are different and some are quicker at doing things than others. He could just be lazy. I found that with my 4 children they all sat up at different ages I used to sit on the floor with them between my legs whilst supporting their backs and had lots of toys out which I used to play with them and this is how they learnt to sit up. I found that all 4 children walked at different ages too 2 of them bum shuffled and 2 crawled the crawlers walked quicker than the bum shufflers. My youngest daughter walked at 10 months and yet my eldest daughter was 23 months old before she walked so there can be vast differences. Don't worry I am sure he will soon get the hang of it just continue to sit with him and encourage him.

Cynthia - posted on 04/28/2010

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I'm wondering if your child crawls? usually crawling and sitting tend to go hand in hand, IF you leave your child to itself ie, if you don't prop up from 3 months onward, but only place your child stomach down on the floor on his/her blanket, once the child can turn over on his own?
Usually when a child is learning to creep and crawl, they are usually strengthening the muscle of the back and stomach at the same time and learn to sit incidental to crawling. (not all children creep and not all children crawl some just wiggle, some sit and use there legs, some roll to where they want to go)
do you have a Jolly Jumper? this would allow him to be fully supported from hip to chest in an upright position, it might also give some clues to whether he may have developemental problem, or whether he's just one of those kids who prefers to be upright, it may also indicate if he is actually uncomfortable for him to bend at the hips or flex his back, forward. Generally though if he has a physical problem your doctor and well baby clinic should have picked it up by now. Remember the quickest way to get answers is to ask questions, HE's your child be assertive,
I know of one mother in my mum and baby group thirty years ago who was totally devasted because no one would give her any answers to her totaly limp and unresponsive 18month old son, and all of us first time mums with develpmentally normal babies didn't know how to respond to her or comfort her. We all just prayed she and her son got the help she needed and those who had siblings with children or mothers in the medical profession took her under their wing to help her formulate the questions she need to ask.
IT is your right to expect answers, to have the doctor or nurse explain all examinations as they are doing them, it is your right if you are not satisfied with the answers you get to request a second opinion.
Ask amoung your family and your husbands family to find out if your husband or yourself where at the late end of the scale for physical activity this can be an indicator for your own child development and behaviour.
If your son is large for his age some development can be slower due to a lag in nerve development or simply because it much hard for parents to hold a heavier or larger child for as long as a more compact developed child when they are learning to test their leg muscles etc. some kids are so visually oriented its as if they don't know they have a body until someone shows them the delights of movement, you'll know these kids by they way their eyes follow every movement and sound.
Then again your child may just be a child who wants to be upright!

Manea - posted on 04/28/2010

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Every baby is different so its ok if he's not sitting up by himself yet, he will eventually just give him time. And everyday keep doing what your doing, sitting behind him and also letting him sit alone with a pillow. Its normal that he falls forward so let him. He will soon find his balance and strength. :-)

Shelley - posted on 04/28/2010

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I was told by my ot that the bumbo chair was great for strenghthening the babys back. I am sure your baby will do it anyday.

Tami - posted on 04/28/2010

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relax, but do keep offering him tummy time. It is important to play on his tummy to strengthen neck and back muscles to get ready for sitting, give him time! Lay down and just play!

Lucy - posted on 04/28/2010

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As a grandma who has cared for many babies, and they all develop on their own schedules, I would agree that you don't need to worry if your baby is meeting other developmental milestones. If your baby rolls over, creeps or crawls, and stands on your lap, things are probably just fine. If he lacks muscle tone (is floppy), see your pediatrician for an evaluation. Most likely, everything is just fine, but if you are worried, it never hurts to ask your baby's doctor to check his development out.

Kim - posted on 04/28/2010

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you could try and get one of those bumbo chairs. It gives them enough back support so they can get some practice sitting..(only if he holds his head up well, though)...just make sure that he is on the ground in the chair...

Chauron - posted on 04/28/2010

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Hi Laura

If your child has a very low tone, I would suggest that you see a Physiotherapist who deals with low toned children before he gets much older.

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There's no reason you shouldn't ask your pediatrician about this, at the very least, to calm your fears. If there is a problem, the sooner it's caught, the better, but he could be just fine. Milestones are all over the board, for every kid! My kids are both learning disabled, and they developed completely motor skills outside of the milestones (some earlier, some later) of kids with their disabilities, so every baby is different! Good luck!

Christina-kantor - posted on 04/28/2010

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It may be fine, but cannot hurt to talk to your Pediatrician about, he/she can evaluate for other problems. My son could sit but was never interested- it implied a lack of motion! He played on his knees, so he could move around at will...

Rosie - posted on 04/28/2010

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We meet up with some ladies from my antenatal group and it's really interesting to see how different every baby is. One baby was crawling and pulling herself up at 6 months, and another only just sat up by herself for the first time the other day and she is 9 months old. Don't panic. Every baby is an individual and I am growing to learn that as muc as you try to get them to DO something, it's as if something just 'clicks' in their head and they can just do it all of a sudden. They do it when they're ready.
Don't worry, it will come!
Rosie x

Rebecca - posted on 04/27/2010

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My 16 month old was having trouble & I got her the Bunko seat. I think that is how they spell it. Wallmart has them & you can even get a tray for them now. She was sitting up in no time! They don't cost very much either! Love it!

TERRY - posted on 04/27/2010

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WORRY!? well ofcourse we worry, isn't that what Moms do? Go with your gut feeling. No doctor, nurse or sociol worker type should ever give you grief about asking questions, if they do I'd find another and another until you feel comfortable with them.

Sarah - posted on 04/27/2010

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My youngest @ 7 months was not sitting up. I talked to her doctor and we both decided to have her evaluated by Early Intervention. She did qualify for services. A therapist came to my house for one hour a week. She is now 2 1/2 years old and no longer qualifies for services. She was evaluated about a month ago and is now right on target or even ahead of schedule. If you have concerns talk to the doctor about it.

Mary - posted on 04/27/2010

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My baby sat unassited at 3 months old, which I thought was completely normal, but then my doc came in at his 4 month appt and thought she was in the wrong room for a minute because he was sittin up alone so early. She said thats completly not normal, and usually babies don't really sit up till 6 months, and to be completely unassited till later!! So i really wouldn't worry... they all do it at different times!

Lisa - posted on 04/27/2010

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If he's not meeting other milestones I'd go to the doctor, my son was very floppy and at 7 months he still couldn't sit up, we started physical therapy before his first birthday, because he just had no muscle tone. We've done a million different test and never found a problem but he is now four has been going to specialist and doctors several times a month since that 7 month mark, he has pt, ot, and speech therapy everyday at a special preschool. He hits all of his milestones about a year behind schedule and all they can diagnose him with is failure to thrive. He also had acid reflux since birth that they wouldn't treat until he was a year old, so has feeding problems, just started eating baby food regularly at four years old! If u think there is a problem, stand up for your baby and get it taken care of now before its too late.

Angelina - posted on 04/27/2010

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My little Boy Never Sat up tell about 13 months... around 12 he was gettin the hang of it sorta... but still sat with a pillow behind him and he floped over like every few mins... but dont wory thell do it on there own time...i know the feeling ur going through

Terri - posted on 04/27/2010

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I have been told by a neurotherapist pretty much the same as the other mums - they will sit up and other milestomes all in their own time and much of is has to do with head size compared to body size and getting their balance. I have been told and have followed the never sit them up until they can get themselves to a sit up position on their own - it's a developmental thing a bit like trying to make a baby walk before they are ready and not good to rush the process. It'll happen. And they are only babies for such a short time :O)

Annabel - posted on 04/26/2010

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One of my twin girls didn't sit until she was just over 8 months old. My pediatrician actually gave us a referral to an OT (Occupational Therapist), who did an assessment of her positioning. I think Jordan tended to twist her head a certain way, so the OT showed us how to prop her head the other way. She made a couple more recommendations to go home and practice. Guess what, the very next day, Jordan sat unassisted!

Kelly - posted on 04/26/2010

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I think you know what is best! You wouldnt be asking if you werent concerned. The only way to relieve your anxiety is to get him checked out. He is probably just fine. But it never hurts to be catious you dont want to kick yourself later.

Tracey - posted on 04/26/2010

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Hi Laura
my little girl didn't want to sit up, and would always lie on her side. So I got a Elmo sit me up, it has a circle part and sit him in that for a while show him the toys that come with it and add extras later. See if that works, if he falls over just pick him back up. Use lots of encouraging words, even if he is young he will see the happy look on your face when he is doing well. hope this helps

Jane - posted on 04/26/2010

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My lil boy was the same as Jodi's friend. He is now 12 months and nearly walking, and didn't actually sit unaided until 10 months. Once he did that, then the crawling, standing etc, came on really quick!! Have a little patience...he will do it in his own time!!

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I was told that at around 6 months old most babies can sit unaided but if they aren't by 9 months to see your doctor about it. My son's 5 months old and can sit unaided for a few seconds then does the whole leaning tower of Pisa act on me lol! Every baby is different, don't worry and ask your doctor for advice.

Becky - posted on 04/26/2010

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I wouldn't worry about it yet at 8 months, unless you're feeling like there are other milestones he's not reaching as well -if he still seems floppy or is unusually rigid, has trouble holding his head up for long periods of time, doesn't roll at all yet, that kind of thing.
The one thing I am curious about is the arching - is he doing that any time you put him in a sitting position at all, like even if you sit him on your lap or in his carseat, or would it only be if you try to sit him down by himself? if he does it anytime you put him in a sitting position anywhere, I'd maybe mention it to your doctor, because I'd wonder if maybe it's causing him pain.
Mind you, my son arches when I put him in his carseat or swing just and he doesn't want to go in, just trying to get out. (and he almost does too!)

Jodi - posted on 04/25/2010

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Normal. Mine both sat up younger, but a friend of mine's little one only just started being able to sit without toppling at about 10 months. She has now just gone 12 months and can stand on her own, so she went from almost nothing to almost walking in a matter of 2 months. All babies are different :)

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