Sam - posted on 03/22/2014 ( 5 moms have responded )
I'm currently 13 weeks pregnant - not too terribly far along - and only 21 years old. I have a decent paying job, I live almost rent-free at a friend's house, and I'm trying to save money for the baby. My problem is...the father doesn't have a job. He also lives rent-free with me, I buy his cigarettes and alcohol, and he hasn't kept a job for more than 3 months since I met him. I want to move out and afford a place of my own and raise this baby...but I'm not sure if I can handle it by myself. I'm struggling to pay my bills on time, I can only afford some of them if I make nice tips at work, and I'm tired of living with this friend. I have a standing offer from an ex for a totally rent-free place to live...but if I move in with him, the father has told me that he'll never speak to me again. I don't want to raise a child by myself, nor do I think I CAN emotionally or monetarily...but I need to get out of the situation I'm in and start turning my life around. I love the man...but I can't continue to be the only bread winner here. I've helped him find job ads and he's done nothing with them. I've been told to give him a 3 month notice, but I KNOW he won't take that well. I'm not even sure if I'm happy anymore. Any advice for a stressed out soon to be single mother?