Not Sure What to do About Grandparents!

Samantha - posted on 07/07/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My husband and I are both young 21 & 24. We have a 5 month old daughter. We live next door to my husbands parents. They own our house and are letting us live here for free. They are wonderful and always willing to help. But the problem is, they think they need to see out daughter every day. My mother in law finds excuses to come over and wants my daughter all the time. She always tells me she knows Im exhausted and need a break and should let her keep her for awhile. Always trying to get me to let her keep her. It is every single day. She has ran out of her house to catch us one day as we were leaving, just to see my daughter. They used to baby sit every day, but now it is down to one day a week because they have different ideas of parenting than I do and I could not handle seeing them that much, but they still think they need to see her everyday. Sometimes I feel mean for not wanting them to have her and find myself making excuses as to why she needs me holding her(tired,cranky,doesnt feel good) because I am so tired of handing my daughter over to them everyday. Don't know what to do!?

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Michelle - posted on 07/07/2013

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If asking them to back off hasn't worked then really your only option is to move. That's the payoff for living next door rent free though.

Samantha - posted on 07/07/2013

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It just really sucks feeling like you are sharing your daughter with your in laws

Samantha - posted on 07/07/2013

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He has had talks with them about it, and they agree to back off, but always start in again. Moving is definitely in our minds. They give us free rent and that really helps us out. Hard to pass that up but it may be for the better. Im not trying to keep their granddaughter away from them, just have space as a family, because right now I feel like a family of 5 instead of 3. I would like them to have their one day a week with her and then see her some on weekends, but not every weekend. When they babysit her, they seem to think they know her better than us and tell us what she wants and needs. They have literally told me how to put her to sleep before. Like I don't know. Im thinking maybe not even giving them that day, but I do not want to be mean. I work at a daycare and she goes with me.

Ev - posted on 07/07/2013

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You either need to move or your husband needs to tell them that you guys are needing some space.

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