Not sure what to do about my 13 yr old talking back and grades dropping.

Amanda - posted on 12/04/2014 ( 5 moms have responded )




My son non stop talks back has an attitude. I have grounded, spanked done everything I can think of and nothing has seemed to help. He isn't doing his school work. lies to me says he has no homework..


♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 12/08/2014




Well, considering that, by the age of 13, you should be able to have conversations regarding discipline and suspend the whole physical punishment, for one...That never works at this age. Actually, beyond the toddler ages, once they can understand your native language, physically punishing your kid can be considered abuse. Surely you are capable of communicating with your kid without physically assaulting him, are you not?

Seriously. My kids, by the age of 4 or 5 were out of the 'spanking' stage. At that point, they were cognitive of actions/consequences, and well able to handle disciplinary conversations and respond well.

Perhaps your kid has decided that since you don't want to treat them appropriately by discussing problems, rather than jumping to the assault stage, he doesn't need to comply?

All teenagers do seem to go through this "I don't do homework" stage. Mine did. It was rectified by removal of privileges, clear stating and outlining of our expectations, as well as the instructors', and following through with allowing privileges to resume once conditions were met/.

Ev - posted on 12/04/2014




I agree with Jennifer. You can also tell him that until he can have at the least a respectful tone and manner in talking to you, you will not listen to what he has to say.

Jennifer - posted on 12/04/2014




email the teachers and get the work. take away his phone, technology etc. until the work is done.


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Dove - posted on 12/08/2014




Well... spanking a 13 year old is pretty much a guarantee that things will get worse instead of better... Other than that and what the other two ladies have suggested... I don't really have any additional advice. Have you sat down and talked to him about how his disrespect makes you feel and how he would feel if you talked to him like that? Teenagers can be pretty self centered (like overgrown toddlers), so sometimes getting them to see things from another perspective 'can' help.

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