G - posted on 04/17/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )
When I first came on here I spewed out all my thoughts at once bc I was so frustrated. My fiance of three years has ended our relationship so that he can see other people originally he has said it was bc I am stronger without him. We have a 2 year old. I chose that our daughter routine stay the same he sees her every weekend in my home. I no longer want him taking her out of the house as he hasn't told me where he lives. I have never let her sleep over anywhere and I don't trust his roommates. I'm afraid if he takes her out that he will kidnap her. It makes sense that he get to see her. I love my daughter enough to tolerate his presence for a short time. I have no idea how much is a reasonable amount of child support as he only paid 3 months out of her entire life and now says he will put in an account so he can track my spending and anytime I want to check the balance or take out money I have to go with him. I don't know if it is legal to turn whatever little he gives down and the most I can do is ask him for a higher amount. I'm scared to apply if they ask him to pay back child support he might just kill me. His family already called to warn me not to apply which I really don't like. It has only been a few days why do I need to get threatened when I haven't even talked to him about what I am doing regarding her. I have already applied for sole custody upon a lawyer's suggestion saying it was in the best interest for our child and clarified that he will not be losing his parental rights. She said leaving him legal custody he might use that to harass me. I'm not sure quite how much legal custody affords a parent I just don't want my daughter living with him at all seeing her I can muster I just don't want to be around when he is there even less now that his family threatened me over child support.
How do you manage to deal with being alone with children?
What did you to keep yourself above water?
How do you coparent?