Ok I know about c.s issues, but is it fair I am not getting c.s. he has supervised visitation, i am way broke, and once a week i have to drive the kids 4 hours and back to see him for 6 hours?

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Sarah - posted on 06/25/2011

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We're going to trial at the end of summer. So hopefully something will come of it. Recently he forged my name to a tax return and cashed in, basically took my money. Luckily I caught it. That ought to boast well in court. As I have officially doc from the IRS. I am just grateful for my family and a few close friends.

Jodi - posted on 06/25/2011

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Ouch.... :\

But feel free to vent away. I just wish they could enforce the child support for you to help you out. But I know what that is like too. My ex owes a fortune :P I gave up expecting any regular payments a long time ago.

Sarah - posted on 06/25/2011

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Oh believe me I know all the legal stuff. I'm already past the 50k mark in already paid attorney fees. His attorney is free, an ex gf. I do not plan on NOT taking them to visitation. I have never thought that, i mean I'd love for him to just go away, but that is not going to happen.

Jodi - posted on 06/25/2011

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Ah, Sarah, I think we all question ourselves when these things happen. I felt a bit like that in the years following my divorce, and all that I have had to deal with since then. You realise you never even knew the person you were married to. I've been divorced 11 years now and still shake my head at myself sometimes.......But our son is now nearly 14, so it is a bit easier in that respect. Hang in there, life will get easier eventually. But there will be bumps along the way.

Jodi - posted on 06/25/2011

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OK, well, in that case it really is your responsibility to get the kids there for his visits, but as I said, if you can't afford to because he doesn't pay his child support, it makes it difficult!!

I am really sorry for your situation, he sounds like a real winner :\

I am not sure where you live, but you could end up in contempt if you DON'T take the kids, so you kind of are in a difficult situation. Do you have access to some legal advice about it? Because really, child support shouldn't be linked to his visitation, but if you can't afford to get the kids there because he's not paying, that's different. Just not sure how it would sit with the courts though.

Sarah - posted on 06/25/2011

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I keep thinking THIS is NOT my LIFE. I am a college educated woman, who married a doc's son, who turned out to be sleeping with the enemy.

Sarah - posted on 06/25/2011

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It's because I moved. He isn't even allowed to contact me, or have my phone #. His last stunt was to call CPS and try to say I was stabbing one of our children in the chest with knife. I was at my grandmothers funeral at the time, with our children. When I returned home from the funeral I was greeted with police at my house. Of course they found out his allegations were bogus. The kids hate going to see him, all he does is badger them and fill their heads with nonsense. He pleaded with the court he couldn't afford supervised visitation so now his mom does it. It is absurd. They come home, heads all filled, yelling at me, saying I hate you mama, then they just cry and cry. All I can do is hold them. They are 4 and almost 3.

Jodi - posted on 06/25/2011

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Of course it isn't fair that you don't get child support. Half the time neither do I. You can't change morons, unfortunately. But it doesn't mean he shouldn't be allowed to see his kids. HOWEVER, I can't see why you should have to be paying to do all the running around to make that happen if he can't pay child support!! What do your court orders say about his visitation, or the travel to get them there? I can't see why you shouldn't just put your foot down and say I can't afford to do this if you are not going to pay some child support!!!



I guess I should also ask, who moved away from who. Is the reason you live so far away from one another because you moved or because he moved?

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