Christi - posted on 03/12/2012 ( 13 moms have responded )
I think I have taken parenting in a way wrong directions so I really have to question my status as a mother.....you know what I mean?
Situation: I am married to the father of both of my children. My daughter is 2 years old her name is Prudence Kay. I recently had my son who is now almost 4 months. So here are my questions.
#1. When I put my daughter on the toilet she seems to get very angry. My husband and I have tried many times and I honestly have no clue how to potty train children. Nothing I ever do is helping. Everytime I get online to do researching I get useless 10 page long arcticles and when it starts to get good you find out they want $80 for a dvd pack that instructs you from there. What crap. How do i introduce her gently to the bathroom and potty? She has a potty chair but she plays like its a toy. I have tried to use stuffed animals to play with her with the potty chair and she just took the potty apart. I am really done with the diaper changing. I want some potty training advice. Im willing to do anything. PLEASE HELP.
#2. She yells No at me when I say things when she is being bad. I will say "Prudence Please Dont Do That" and she will walk up to me and SCREAM NO. I do believe in smacking a butt of course I have never hurt her. Just her pride has been smashed LOL. It does not even phase her anyway.
#3 I have no idea how to get her to understand the concept of TIME OUT. She just keeps getting up and going on about her merry way. I will stand there and she will just get up and smack me. I smack her on the hand and she continues to smack me and I continue to smack her hand until I surrender and she goes in her room.
#4 At night she has her own bedroom and we put a baby gate up and put a movie on the tv for her. She will yell at Andrew(hubby) and Mommy in there a million times to change her movie. If not she will bang the door off of the wall and climb up on things she knows she shouldnt do. So we are forced to go in there and try to get her to bed. Normally doesn't fall asleep until after 10 sometimes 11 o'clock. I feel bad if i turn her tv off because I cant put any light in there cause she will just break the nightlights we have tried to use.
#5 She really just doesnt eat. She is so picky and I worry about her health. I don't want to have to force feed her. She likes steamed green beans, hotdogs, shredded wheat cereal, spaghetti. So sometimes she will pork out for a couple days and then sometimes she will go a week where she wont eat hardly anything. I talked to the doctor said not to force her.
#6 She is a loner around other children and when she gets too close to kids she just pushes them away physically or smacks then in the head. She avoids them. I try to get her to play with my play date friend's kids. They welcome her with open arms and are always excited to see her and they are really social and very good girls. They want to play with Pru but she just wont have it. How do I help her be more social?
#7 I have never thought of myself as a very smart person. I just feel like my confidence in myself is effecting the way I approaching teaching her things. I seriously get discouraged easily. I feel like I cant teach her cause I am not a good teacher. She speaks ok but I know she can speak better. How do I get her focused when I do sit down and try to really teach her things? What are some ideas for things like crafts I could do with her? How do I teach my daughter things? I know that this is a stupid question! Sorry!
So basically I need some people that I can talk to that can really help with some of the issues. I kinda let Prudy play me for a fool. I am kind of a push over. My husband and I try to fix these issues. We just need some good advice from people that truly understand.
I don't really know how I should punish Prudy in a way that is effective. She is a very smart girl. She is a wonderful Big Sister. She is really a good kid but I just dont understand the matter of some of the things I have tried. Wonder if it is my fault. She is my everything and so is my son. I want to be the best mom I can be.