Cheyenne - posted on 01/03/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )
ok, i have been with my boyfriend for 3 1/2 years. we have an 11 month old together and i have lived with his parents for 2 years(along with him). i know in the state of cali we dont have common law marraiges. so i was wondering if i could change my last name to my boyfriends last name. we were planning on getting married a few times but the first couple times were just whatever. this last time was for real but ive changed my mind. i dont want to get married. we have been going around the subject of us separating but we dont want to because of our son. my boyfriend wants to keep our son and me leave. so im afraid that if i leave him i will lose my son. i stay at home with my son 24/7. i do everything for my son except work so i dont pay for anything for him. i do have WIC and medical for my son though through me. and my boyfriend is actually getting medical through me too. but i do everything for my boyfriend too. i do his laundry and i cook for him whenever he wants, i (try) to clean when possible, i make sure my son is clean, i put my son to bed and get up with him, i feed my son, i take him for walks, i stay up with my son when hes not tired and im exhuasted. my boyfriend will help if i bug him. my friends now what hes like and what he does. and they dont understand why i shouldnt get my son if we separated because i care for him. and its true. my boyfriends parents work to much and dont want to care for a baby, my boyfriend couldnt handle it and he wouldnt be able to quit his job, my parents arent allowed to see my son because my brother threanted my son and me, i have no friends that could care for him and both sides of our family are to old to care for a baby. im not trying to make exuses because its all true. i understand that if i left i would need to get a job. but i have NOWHERE to go, so i have to stay for now.
so if anyone can help me with the laws and everything it would help. would i get my son? would joint custody be better for him?