Ok im 26 my boyfriend is 46 i do love him we get along great everything is good except ok he has 3 children a 26 yr old a 13 yr old and a 22yr old i get along with them except the 22yr old daugter she has not talked to me at all she makes faces critizizes what i do her father knows what she does other people point out what she does but all my boyfriend says is thats how she is he wont tell her nothing and it makes me feel like im ot important i need help am i wasting my time with him

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Brittany - posted on 09/13/2012

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I'm 25, my BF is 36, his children are 15 & 17, it take a while for them to warm up, considering you are very close in age, she's proably judging you - would't you do the same?



Try to smile and be nice to her - if the relationships works out, and you are kind to her - she will eventually like you - I know my step-kids do now, but it takes time to prove you not what they think you are.



If your not willing to put up with the judgement - leave now, before it gets any worse..

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Brittany - posted on 09/14/2012

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She is his daughter yes, but shes also a grown woman, he can't tell her how to feel about you. You need to give it time so she can look past your age and respect you regardless. Sometimes, respect needs to be earned. Give it time, and the day will come where she acknowledges the things you do for her family. I knwo it sucks in the meantime, but if your not willing to deal with it that would be my deciding factor on if I was going to stay in the relationship.



Don't ask dad and daughter to fight over you -- this will only cause more problems.. Just play nice and wait it out if you really want this relationship.

Anacani - posted on 09/13/2012

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I would respect her if my dad was with a young person i do everything i can for him i clean cook wash his 13 yr olds stuff age is not important his daughter dont live here she doesnt even talk to her brothers wife she is like that with everyone it hurts cuz i love him so much but your right its his daughter

Tyla - posted on 09/13/2012

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Well it does not suprise me that the 22 year old does not like you since your dating her dad and young enough to be her sister...if my dad did that I would never talk to him again. What does suprise me is that the 26 year old likes you...since y'all are the same age. I have a friend who is 19 and he now ex is 36...he had a daughter that was her age and that was pretty much the end of their relationship. I would say your wasting your time if he isnt gonna put him foot down about her being rude to you though because even if she is only a few years younger than you she is still his child and he is still her father. But I would say put yourself in her shoes if it where your dad with a GF your age how would you feel about her?

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