ok my question is how old should you stop tucking your kids into bed , my kids are 14 . 11. 7 and they want me to kiss and hug them good night . but ex has to 14 year old no more your to old and 11 no more hugs or kiss , i think thats messed up , what do you think .

Kate - posted on 04/21/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )




tucking kids in bed and saying night with a kiss and a hug


Brenda Ann - posted on 03/17/2011




Do it until they turn around and say "No more, mom please, I am too big for that, I am not a baby anymore."


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Louise - posted on 03/17/2011




If this is normal for your family then who is anybody to say it is wrong. I found that about the age of 8 my sons would just say goodnight and disappear up to bed, but this was what they wanted. If I waited up until my 14 year old went to bed I would be shattered because both my sons stayed up later than I did at that age! Whatever feels normal to you is fine and I see nothing wrong with it.

Antoinette - posted on 04/21/2009




In my opinion if they still want the hugs and kisses and tucking in DO IT. They say kids benifit and seem to be more sensitive when they have their parents loving touch. Even if it is a pat on the back. But I would do it as long as they wanted because one day they will grow out of it. Enjoy! Just my thoughts hope this helps

Mindi - posted on 04/21/2009




Kids should be tucked in with a hug and kiss until they move out of your house! All kids need the reassuring hugs and kisses of their parents no matter what age they are. As kids get older, it becomes even more important to tuck them in so you stay connected to them and they realize that no matter what has happened between you that day, you still love them unconditionally. I feel very sorry for your ex. He will be missing out on a lot with your kids. I am glad you are smart enough to understand the importance of a parent's loving touch!

Cassie - posted on 04/21/2009




I think there is absolutely no age when it is inappropriate! It is completely up to the child!! If your child want/need that before bed then go for it!! When my husband and I stay with my parents, they still pop into our room to say good night with an occasional kiss on the cheek for me. Keep it up!!!!

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