Ok so I am in need of some advice on various issues

Naje - posted on 09/23/2015 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My son Aiden is two years old and I have started potty training in hopes of sending him to daycare soon. But how do I get him to use the potty? Now my other issue is he throws horrific tantrums and will not stay in bed at night. His sleep schedule is all over the place and as a young mother with two jobs I need guidance. Please help!

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Melissa - posted on 09/24/2015

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Does he have to be potty trained in order to go to daycare? My kiddos were potty trained while they were in daycare which was easier because other kids went potty too, so they learned by example. My guidance is to wait until he is showing signs of readiness - talks about going potty, realizes he went potty in his diaper and talks about it etc. As far as the sleeping goes, keep a consistent routine no matter what! It can be so hard not to tend to them at night, but if you walk him back to his bed and leave without interacting, talking etc, he'll eventually realize that he's not getting anything for getting up. Hope you are able to get some rest soon, hang in there mama!

Dayanne - posted on 09/23/2015

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@ Sarah exactly what I was going to advice. I think his nap should by 12 to around 2pm and bed by 7pm. Yes sound machine, bedtime routine, and I was going to say maybe 30 mins before you're going to start the bedtime routine start getting his body relax do quite things turn tv off maybe do a puzzle just so he starts understanding bedtime is coming soon. That's what I do with my little one and it helps her calm down and get her body relax and ready for bed. Also maybe while you put him down stay in his room so he knows you're there, but don't speak to him make it boring. I think if you stay consistent your little guy will soon love bedtime or atleast understand it's time to sleep.

Sarah - posted on 09/23/2015

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Do ou think he may need more sleep? An overtired child will have more trouble falling asleep and sleep less than a well rested kiddo. What is his daily routine,not just bedtime? When does he rise, eat, play, nap. No screen time at all after dinner may help too. For potty training, is he ready? Does he show interest in using the potty, is he dry when he wakes up from naps or sleep? Can he tell you he is going to to before he does? Some kids need more time

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Sarah - posted on 09/23/2015

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If he only is getting short nap midday, if at all, try backing his bedtime up. At 2 my kids were up at 6-7, napping for 2 to 2.5 hours after lunch and in bed at 7. if he goes down at 9 and is up til 12, and doesn't nap at all. he is only getting 7 hours of sleep, and he need more. I know it seems like a tired child will sleep more, but I have found the opposite; sleep begets sleep. I think you will have to make some changes slowly. It would help if grandma would try the same schedule. To get him to stay in bed, whether he is climbing out of a crib or is in a big boy bed, is tricky but doable. You go through your routine. Dinner, bath, teeth brushed, stories and snuggles and then kiss good night and leave the room. A nightlight or white noise machine can help. When he gets up, you take him back and say "it;s time to sleep, night". After that he gets no attention from you. You take him back to bed lay him down and leave, over and over and over and over. This may take you several hours and dozens and dozens of trips. If you waver and talk to him, give him water, read him a book you have taught him that if he sticks with the behavior of getting up, he gets rewarded. So dig your heels in and summon your courage. It will work, it may take a few days and you'll think this is never going to work, but it does. I promise. Potty training is tricky because he can control whether he uses the toilet or not. You can't force it, you can encourage him and reward him for success but he may need six months to really be ready. Does the daycare absolutely require 100% potty trained kids?

Naje - posted on 09/23/2015

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He wakes around 7-7:30 every morning, he naps around mid day if I can get him to lay down. He does wake up dry and tells me if he has to go to the potty. I usually take him to play at the park if I'm off but usually he's at his grandmas house and I have no idea what she does there. But it's having a negative effect on his behavior. But I try to get him in bed around 9 at the lastest. I'm still learning I'm still very young

Naje - posted on 09/23/2015

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No he's in a toddler bed and we have a routine set up. He eats snack, we brush his teeth and then we say prayers. But he just won't stay in his bed, he starts freaking out. I put him in his bed at 9:00 every night but he won't fall asleep until midnight. I'm getting frustrated

Dayanne - posted on 09/23/2015

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I'm sorry my daughter is not potty training right now so I can't say much about it I'm not there yet, but about sleeping I was wondering do you have a bedtime routine for your son?? Like book, brush teeth, and then lights out?

I started my daughter on a bedtime routine since she was 5 months old. She's now 18 month old and goes to bed pretty much at the same time and we do the exact same routine everyday. She never fights her bedtime because I think she doesn't know any different now. So what I am trying to say is maybe start a bedtime routine with your son and try to stick to the same time everyday and do the same routine too. I think soon he will start understanding bedtime and know that it's time to sleep. Btw is he still in a crib??

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