OKAY I NEED POSITVE PPL!!! nothing RUDE!

Mara - posted on 01/02/2016 ( 15 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 6, is it wrong that she don't know the difference between girl parts and boy parts??? I mean I know ppl have all different believes! if yall have different thoughts then how is the best way to explain to her? She so little, when do yall think is the right time for everything???? Please just good advice nothing rude!!!?

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Erica - posted on 01/05/2016

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Here's my mother's advice (which ive been using): Don't offer more than she asks. yes she should know boys have a penis and girls have a vagina. But that doesn't mean you have to explain what they can be used for. I'm not saying "don't ", just that it may not be necessary yet. also, i have a tendency to want my child to know everything, but depending on age/maturity they may not be equipped to understand everything. It's true that everybody has a vagina or a penis, but technically some people have both or get it changed later in life. i really wouldn't go into that kind of stuff w a little kid (unless you have a close friend or family member who meets those criteria. If you DO, ask them what they want your kid to know.) My 3yo asked where babies came from. I said they grow inside a grown-up lady's belly and when it's done growing, tada! baby! That was good enough for him (tg). When he asks more I'll tell more.
If i were you, I'd ask their doctor what the common knowledge is for age 6. Make sure she knows that. But unless she's really curious or hears details from some other kid, i don't see a need to give every detail about their uses. Hope that helps!

Carol - posted on 01/06/2016

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I forgot one thing.. There are books at the library that are for kids and can help you. You can also get them on amazon. They are kid friendly and can help you explain better. Just look them up. I use them.. It is great we have a lot more resources now.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/05/2016

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Ok, first, I want to address your heading. Honey, you're on a public, international forum. You cannot dictate how others are going to respond, and you can't tell others NOT to respond because you don't like their answers.

Yes, your heading does tend to push towards rudeness.

Now, to address your question. No, not "wrong", in that sense, but honestly, she should know what parts she has: clitoris, vulva, labia, vagina, etc. At the same time she should know what a penis is, what testicles are, and where they are placed on a male. If you think about it, it could be a form of protection. People who are educated properly about their bodies face far less stress as they get older and learn that their clitoris is not referred to as a "cha cha", and can use the correct terminology.

As far as teaching...There are books aplenty, geared towards any age group. Oh, and one other thing...the less embarrassed YOU are about relaying the info in age appropriate tidbits, the better things will go.

Jodi - posted on 01/05/2016

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Yes, I understand that's my opinion and it's not how you meant it. But when you post in a public forum, public opinion counts, which is why I gave the advice for next time. How you meant it doesn't matter.

Jodi - posted on 01/02/2016

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If I could please add to all of this....PLEASE also use the correct terminology with your child, not pet names.

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Carol - posted on 01/06/2016

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My daughter is six and she knows the difference. I believe that is important.. I make sure that she knows the correct name for the body like vagina and penis. This helps when I explain things to her about "not letting anyone touch you", etc. It is for education as well as protecting her. She is definitely not too young. I don't make a big deal out of it.. This world is different than when I was little. They learn things a lot earlier now.

Jodi - posted on 01/05/2016

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Unfortunately, when you post in a public forum, you get what you get. If you get rude comments, you just ignore them. But my advice is not to put people off by yelling at them not to be rude in the first place. It doesn't come across well and may put people off offering genuine advice.

Mara - posted on 01/05/2016

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Thank you everyone for yall advice it sounds super easy but it so hard. Lol yall are extremely helpful!!!

Mara - posted on 01/05/2016

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To Jodi u might think the post is rude but ppl have different opinions and I just don't want any negative rude comments. I just want a serious answer and something very helpful bc for me it's something very personal. That's all...I didn't try to make it sound rude.

Sarah - posted on 01/02/2016

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So true. Super irritating when 17yo girls comes in to tell me that her "tutu", "chacha", "down south" or "coochee" Worse, the P word!

Dove - posted on 01/02/2016

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If she doesn't live w/ any males I wouldn't necessarily call it WRONG, but by 6 she should know the basic differences between the sexes... so it's high time she learn.

It was fairly easy for us as we've always been a pretty 'open door' household. My girls were 2.5 when they asked me if Daddy's vagina was behind his tail. lol That was the day they learned the word penis... and also the day their father quit showering w/ them. lol They were 6 when their brother was born (and their father left the home), so my son has been raised from birth knowing the differences as well.

I will also add... the less a child knows about their bodies (and the bodies of opposite gender) and how normal/natural those parts are, BUT that they are also private and no one has the right to touch them (other than caregivers and doctors when the owner of said body parts needs help)... the more open they are to being victims of sexual abuse... So please start talking to your daughter and educating her asap.

Jodi - posted on 01/02/2016

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Can I just suggest that the tone of your post (in particular the heading) is rude in itself? Just wanted to put that out there. You IMMEDIATELY put people on the defensive by posting like that.

Anyway, do I think a 6 year old should know the difference between boys and girls with regard to their private parts? Absolutely. It is something children should be raised being aware of right from the beginning. I guess for us, in our home, it just came naturally that boys and girls were different, and because we were opposite sex parents showering with our opposite sex children, it just came up as a natural part of the conversation.

Sarah's suggestion is a good one if you've never had the conversation with your 6 year old.

Sarah - posted on 01/02/2016

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It isn't wrong but she is 6 and it is time for her to know the differences between boys and girls. There are many books that have drawings of girl parts and boy parts. "It's So Amazing" covers almost every topic about sex and babies. So while I would not give her a copy to read freely at six; it has a drawing of a naked boy and girl and it show that most parts are the same and a few are different. I found this book to be very helpful and accurate, and pretty funny too.
http://www.amazon.com/Its-So-Amazing-Fam...

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