Brenda - posted on 12/25/2015 ( 1 mom has responded )
It is like deja vu to read all of your posts. It's like I wrote them myself. My daughter is 29 and has 2 beautiful little boys who she has said she will teach to hate me. Let me be the first to assure everyone...IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. It is genetic. She is just like her biological father (who she has never met). She is selfish, consumed with her own needs and blows up facebook with what a horrible mother she has. Even when she was little, she would pout when she did not get her way about EVERYTHING. As a child, she was whinny and demanding. When she was 18, she was involved with a married man who had an "open" relationship with his wife. I did the typical mother thing and did everything I could to get her out of it. She disappeared for 4+ years and never responded to my calls, texts, messages sent by relatives, or notes on her door when I finally found out where she was living. She finally came to my house when she hit rock bottom. We had a pretty good relationship until she had her 2nd child. The one time I could not keep the boys when she needed me to, she would said "you'll never see your grandkids again". She kept them from me for about a year and a half. I caved in and called her to ask her forgiveness (I took the blame once again). she started allowing me to see them again. Of course, it happened again and she is now mad again. She never confronts me but uses passive aggressive measures to punish me. She only "argues" via texts and will not take any blame for anything. To sum it up...the boys are 2 and 4, I have missed 2 Christmases, and 1 birthday. I now realize she will never change. She has gone as far as to say that she did not want me to have Christmas Eve morning breakfast with my other child and she didn't think I should go out of town with my husband during Christmas (the man that raised her). She has literally torn my life apart and I am currently in therapy as I have come to terms with the fact that I may never see my grandchildren again. I really don't care if I ever see her again...she has put me through that much! I am not glad that the other mothers on this blog have gone through this but I am SO glad I am not alone. My prayers are with you all and please do not blame yourselves.