On my 2nd pregnancy and my 4 yr old mommy's girl

Jessica - posted on 02/13/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




My daughter turned 4 in Dec and always wants me to sleep with her (which has been a tough habit to break, its been weeks since I have laid down with at bed time, but she still asks) or wants to climb into bed with me in the middle of the night. I don't mind her climbing in at night, in fact I love it because I know that soon she won't need me as much. However, I am pregnant with my second child and fear that her dependence on my presence may cause issues once new baby brother arrives. I am a breatfeeder so, that alone will occupy a good amount of time. I am due in June and she doesn't start preschool until fall. I am at a loss as to what I should do, my daughter is my precious little angel. I want to avoid any possiblity of her feelings being hurt later, when it won't be so easy to give her all of my attention. Any advice is appreciated


Amy - posted on 02/14/2012




I was in a similar situation as you and Katherine. We had my daughter when my son had just turned 4. My son was/is a co-sleeper, I didn't try to transition him to his bed before I had his sister and it turned out be really tough when his sister was born. She was in the room with us the first couple of months and when she woke up he would wake up and he wasn't getting the sleep he needed.

We moved him into his own bed which helped with the sleeping thing but we had to lay down with him to fall asleep. Often he would wake in the middle of the night and call for us to come lay down with him till he fell back asleep. I felt like a walking zombie because no sooner would I get my daughter to sleep my son would be up. It got so tiring that I would end up just telling him to come lay down with us once he woke up. Now his sister is two and she's just starting to want to co-sleep which I need to put a stop to because I don't want to do it again but it's just easier. My son is 6 now and he sleeps with us every other night, on the nights he's not in bed with us he usually crawls in at some point, so there are nights when they're are 4 of us in bed. I know my son sleeps better with us then on his own but my daughter is just the opposite.

I should add that my son never had any resentment because he understood that he wasn't getting the sleep he needed when his sister was waking every two hours to feed and he was really cranky. However not every kid understands what is best for them.


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Katherine - posted on 02/13/2012




I had my second when my daughter was 3.5 and the same situation. She ended up sleeping with her dad. She is very clingy still at 6. Sometimes I have a 3 year old and a 6 year old in bed with me lol.

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