Samantha - posted on 08/20/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )
My ex and I split up when my daughter was about 8 months old. He lives with his parents and I live with my SO. Our schedule is always different because we try to work together. For the most part he has her Monday from 10-7, Wednesday 10-6, Friday 10-7, and Saturday 9-6. Those are the times that I am totally ok with him having. It gets tricky when his work schedule gets in the way. My mom will usually watch her while I work but that does not solve the issue with who loses what time. He is constantly arguing with me about the schedule. I originally told him he could have her two days a week and every other weekend but he won't accept that because of his work schedule. I really want to get it where it is either consistent and I always know when I have her and there is no arguing because it is set and stone, or I want it to be flexible and not a battle over who has how much time with her. He can't take her overnight at all so that never helps. He holds it against me that I get to see her EVERY DAY even though some days I only see her for a half hour in the morning and an hour before bedtime. It isn't a very good situation for her at his house but I do not want to keep her from him. I'm worried that I will lose all flexibility if I go to court over it but on the other hand I want both of us to know the schedule so there is no argument. He says he loses time because he works and it's not fair, when I don't gain ANY of the time because I have a set schedule. Just looking for help with what to do and or expect.