One child dislikes Step mom

Deborah - posted on 10/16/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I am a step mom and a mother. I have a step son who told my 12 yr old he dont like me or wants me with his dad. This not only hurt my feelings but it hurt my 12 yr old. He loves his new lil brothers and he loves to play with them. How can I handle this. I only know how to treat him as my own. But he lies to his father and plays victim. He has already started an argument between me and the father, to where i was about to leave. I dont know what to do in this situation and my heart hurts so much. I love my little family but I keep feeling like Im doing something wrong. I need some positive input.

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Deborah - posted on 10/16/2012

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A family Therapy might be a good ideal. This is new to me also. I just might look into that. Thank you very much

Anaquita - posted on 10/16/2012

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Family therapy, might be helpful. Getting someone who knows the right tools to help you. But really, just do what you can to foster a good relationship with him. Especially if this is a new thing, blended family and all that. It can be hard on kids seeing their parents split up, and married to others. And as they don't know how to cope in healthy ways yet, sometimes they act out. That sort of behavior isn't uncommon. This is something that's going to require time, and an incredible amount of patience to deal with.



So keep treating him like your own, cultivate a relationship with him, slowly. Keep an open line of communication with your husband, and let him know what is going on, and what you are trying to do in creating said relationship with your step-son. That may help curb future arguments.

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