Gina - posted on 09/04/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )
I am a mother of two boys and a bonus mom ( step mom) to a wonderful 3 year old boy. After a long custody case and a very long story my husband received visitation rights when he a little under 6 months old, at that time we had him every other weekend. By the time he turned 18 months we had him 50% of the time. I have always been very supportive of my husband being as involved as possible with the raising of his son, I wouldn't have it any other way. I have remained very involved is raising him when he is with us... literally took on the "mom" role during our time with him. I have always realized that I am not his biological mother but have done it all from bottle feeding, diapers, potty training, sick late nights ect. to the point where I have been told several times that you would never know he that isn't my biological son since we are very close. I'm not complaining just explaining my involvement. But now comes the hard part.. I find that when it comes to taking responsibility in every way with him I am 100% considered and involved. But, When it comes to decision making time between my husband and his biological mother my opinion doesn't really matter. Am I wrong for feeling like maybe I should distance myself and perhaps not involve myself as much as I do? What should my role be? I don't ever want to make him feel as if I treat him any differently than my own two boys. How do I protect my feelings and his?