one parent uses drugs, other alcoholic

Katie - posted on 10/07/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Tomorrow afternoon (while mom and I prepare all day) I am checking myself into the hospital for dual diagnosis. I am clinically depressed have anxiety and suffer from add. On top of that I have been self medicating to be able to function

We have 3 small children all under 5 years old

Husband refuses to get help for alcoholism. I have been emotionally and mentally abused by him (kids have witnessed) and only one time our fight got to the physical point (kids also witnessed). They now say to strangers that daddy beat up mommy.

It is awful here and my boys are suffering. I am ready to end that suffering. I am getting the help I need (kids are going to moms while I am away because drunk hubby is incapable of caring for them because he is always drunk.

I have a wonderful family and huge support system-hubby does not.

My concern is me and the kids coming home to a sober environment. I need him gone and want the kids. I really do not want to get social services involved but I will, that is how passionate I am for making this right for my boys. Tell me, how do I get him out? How do I get him some help (oh we have already done the rehab thing for him). I want peace for me and my kids. A new loving sober happy life.

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Kelli - posted on 07/25/2015

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File for divorce, then you can have him removed. Call the police if he even threatens you so you have a record of the incidents. You will probably need help with finances so get assistance to get back on your feet. Of course, you're depressed! No one should live with the opression. I've lived it. It won't get better and you can't fix him. Do it so your kids don't tolerate abuse in their future lives. Use your family support for God's sake! They don't know him like you do! Run,don't walk!

Vicki - posted on 10/08/2012

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Im thinking yes! If the place is in your parents name then its their place, Im assuming that you suspect that he wont leave willingly? If thats the case then you may have no choice but to take it to higher athourities to have him evicted. Im not sure where your from but where im from we dont have to involve social services to evict people.

Katie - posted on 10/08/2012

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Yes I know that! :) What do you think? Can my dad get him out? I have been reading about peace orders...I really do not want to get social services involved if I do not have to...

Katie - posted on 10/08/2012

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Hi Vicki! Thank you for responding! We actually rent the house from my father. The home is in my parent's names. Why do you ask?

Vicki - posted on 10/08/2012

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First of all i want to say good for you for being willing to work on your issues and getting your kids out of this enviornment. Im glad you have a supporting family that can help you. The house where your husband currently lives is it in your name?

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