One year old biting herself??

Jeni - posted on 02/21/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )




My daughter, who will be 1 on Wednesday started something a little bothersome a couple of days ago. When she gets mad about something, after screaming a couple of times, she will stick her hand in her mouth and bite herself! She subsequently stops screaming, but it really troubles me. Has anyone else has this experience, and if so what did you do about it?


Michelle - posted on 08/01/2012




Hi, I was a child who used to bite my self. I am 43yrs old now. When I got mad I would bite my arm as hard as I could. I believe I stopped doing it around the age of five. I now clean my house when i get mad. You need to find a way for her to get out her anger- energy. I call it that because, when we get angery we have all this energy that we need to focus on some thing. She needs to be able to vent her anger so let her get it out, don't stop her. I got to where I would punch my bed. No one gets hurt. Show her a better way to vent. Pretend something makes you mad ( do it so she see's & hears you.) Perhaps you could teach her to put away her toys. You could say "bad toy you made me mad now you cant play" then put it away.


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Misty - posted on 02/21/2010




Like everyone else has said, its purely frustration, my daughter did the same thing! Try to distract the child as soon as the screaming starts, with the distraction, give them something they can bite on. If she still bites herself, just explain to her that its not nice and it hurts! Trun it into a game or something where you get out the bandaids and cream. Distraction and consistancy are the two keys! Also when she starts screaming you could grab her hands and hold them while you find something real quick to distract her with. At her age, ANYTHING is a distraction, especially when it has bright colors and lights!

Tracy - posted on 02/21/2010




My little brother did this and caused some real damage to the back of his hand. A family friend who is a specialist advised to give him something else to bite out of frustration. My mom bought him a frustration bunny and everytime he started to get frustrated, my mom encouraged him to bite the rabbit instead of his hand. Soon he did it himself without assistance and then a few months later stopped bitting completely. The family friend advised he just didn't have a way to communicate how frustrated, upset, mad, ect he was and that is what started the bitting.

Tracy - posted on 02/21/2010




Ah, the frustrated toddler... My son would do that, or bang his head on the wall, or hit himself. They just get so frustrated and don't have the words to express themselves yet. I would grab my boy and hold him and try to talk to him to find out what it was that was going on. Sometimes it worked, sometimes not. It's scary to watch your child hurt themselves, but it's actually really common. At 8, he will still bang his head on the wall if he's upset enough. But now, he can tell me what's up. It gets better, just be patient. And don't let her know it freaks you out, she'll use it more to manipulate you

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