One year old hitting, throwing things...Please HELP!

Deb - posted on 11/24/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My one year old grandson hits, bites, throws things and laughs about it when you try to scold him. He also touches things he absolutely knows that its a "no no" and again laughs you and does it again and again. Example 1 ...he threw an old computer keyboard at my head and left a big knot on my head...example 2...he plays with the electrical outlets (pulls out the "safety" plug guards). When I remove him from the situation, (holding him on my lap as a 'time out'), he just goes back to it when I put him down. Can anyone help me stop this behavior?? I have tried all i can think of to deter it....scolding (anything from a firm NO to a light smack on his fingers), taking away objects that he throws for a little while, I've ignored the behavior...but he throws things hard enough that i've have bruises all over, including a black eye on 3 occasions, he also threw something at my face and cut open my nose.

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Deb - posted on 11/25/2014

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Thanks for the advice. I do understand that some of these issues are normal. When I say I take things away for a while, it's because I know that he doesn't remember why he lost it in the first place. I have been consistent in what I say/do each time...the very stern NO or a tap on his fingers...He knows exactly what he's doing when he does things he's not supposed to...Example...he will walk to the plug and stare at me as he's touching it, then laugh when I sternly say no. As for throwing things, it's almost the same, he thinks it's a fun game. The only one he does NOT do this to is his dad (my son). I think its the deep voice. Anyways, I will continue to be consistent and I will take everything you've both said into consideration. Thanks.

Dove - posted on 11/24/2014

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Give him soft items to play with. Take him outside to throw a big rubber ball. Teach him to be gentle... like if he hits you, firmly (but gentle enough to not hurt) grab his hand and tell him 'no hitting, be gentle', and then you SHOW him gentle by stroking your cheek w/ his hand. Be firm, be consistent... and spend more time showing him what he CAN play with and how he needs to act than focusing on what he can't/shouldn't do.

He'll learn, but it takes time and repetition. He sounds like a perfectly normal toddler.

Ev - posted on 11/24/2014

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As a grandmother you should realize that kids this age do not remember things from one moment to another and thinking they know what is a no-no and what is okay does not happen yet. They do not have the vocabulary to understand very long wording in sentences. It is common for them to hit, bite, throw things, and so on to communicate if they are not have needs met. Its also common for them to try these things to see what gets done. You are going to have to continue to tell him no or remove him from the situation to get your message across. You also need to give him a distraction from what he is doing. He does not understand time outs. He does not know that you are using that as a consequence. Instead of just putting things he throws around back after a little while up, leave them up. Give him things to play with that are not going to cause you all those hurts and bruises. When you tell him no or it hurts use a stern voice. Changing the tone of your voice and even your facial expression can get the message across better.

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