Sharon - posted on 08/11/2009 ( 17 moms have responded )
Yes you read it right. Etiquette says you only get one baby shower.
There are exceptions to the rule. A number of years between children and not getting a shower the first time around.
There is NO RULE to celebrating the birth of a baby. If you look up the definition of a baby shower - its about getting gifts. Soliciting gifts with the birth of each child is TACKY.
Do not call it a baby shower if you are concerned with appearances, tell people its a Motherblessing for a more spiritual party.
Please don't use the alternative 'blessingway' you might see on the internet - I've been told its offensive to the native Navajos.
For a men welcome party - try a "Sip & See" party. This one is held a month after the baby is born, and guests sip drinks, look at the baby and generally just mingle. You can look up more information on these as you like.
I'm really thrifty. Saved everything. When people asked what I needed - I asked for food. LOL please send casseroles in disposable dishes. We had a great time. Looked at the ultrasound pics got giggly, shared stories. A few gifts showed up, I got a lot of gift certs for eating out because no one in my family cooks and none of my friends did either.
When I got gifts of things I already had - I asked the giver to please return and donate the money - no one wanted to bother - so I asked if I could donate the items to needier children in their names.
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE by all means celebrate the birth of your child. If you're asking about the proper etiquette, then no, do not have a second baby shower.
Love your children and cherish them!