Only has eyes for daddy. Can you relate?

Monica - posted on 10/10/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I need some feedback, please. I'm new on here and I'm in need of some of your thoughts. I have a 22 month old daughter who is a tried-and-true Daddy's Girl. I'm a preschool teacher-turned-SAHM and we are together all of the time. We go to the park every day. We play. I try to have regular adventures with her. And she is mostly a smart, pleasant little girl. But she has always preferred her daddy to me. When she wakes in the morning she calls for him and when I go get her, which I do 99% of the time, she'll cry, "No! I want daddy to hold me, not mommy!" and she'll kick at me. If daddy goes in she'll lay her head on his shoulder and snuggle in. If she's hurt she can only be comforted my daddy and if he's at work and I try to comfort or kiss a boo boo I get, "no! It won't make it better." She'll snuggle up with daddy and sleep but doesn't want me to touch her. Sick? Daddy. Sleepy? Daddy. You'd think I'd be used to it after almost 2 years but I'm totally not. I still cry sometimes afte she's in bed. Can anyone our there relate?

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Monica - posted on 10/15/2012

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that's true. i should look at it as "practice" for when she wears her hair straight down in her face and stays in her room all day. :)

Ariana - posted on 10/11/2012

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I know what you mean, I'm hoping he grows out of it. My mom says he prefers her because I'm his main caregiver and he's so used to me that when she's around he just is 'oma' focused. I would say that's how it sounds with your situation as well.



I'd like to say that makes me totally understanding but I still feel jealous about it...



I find one thing that makes me feel better is when we go out without her, so sometimes I say we're going to the park! Even when his oma's around so that we can go do something without Oma that's fun. Or I spend time doing a fun activity when we're on our own. It still sucks when he's not interested in me, but it also reminds me that he DOES enjoy being with me, just for some reason he really likes his Oma...



At least we're ready for when they're teenagers and become totally allergic to us... lol

Monica - posted on 10/11/2012

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Thank you for your response. It makes me feel better to know I'm not the only one who's not their child's favorite person. In my circle of IRL friends all of their kids are all about Mommy. It kills me!

Ariana - posted on 10/10/2012

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I know exactly how you feel. I live with my mom and my son is on her all the time when she's around, it's like I'm invisible. I think it's because I spend more time with him so he wants to be around her ALL THE TIME when she's around.



It is sooo frustrating. It's the worst when I try to play with him and do all this stuff and he's so happy and then my mom walks in and it's like we didn't do anything and he acts miserable if I even try to go near him.



I don't know, people say it's ok, of course our children love us etc, and I know it's true, but it still hurts.

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