Other names for Dad's girlfriend?

Celine - posted on 09/16/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )




Hi everyone,

I've been living with my boyfriend and his 10 yr.old daughter for a year now, we've been hanging out the three of us for 2 years. His ex and him have been separated for 3 years.
His daughter has always struggled with a name for me. Her mother has not moved on and is clearly uncomfortable with being 'replaced'. Although I don't see it that way.
For this reason I believe their daughter has loyalty issues with mom and therefore feels weird about calling me her dad's girlfriend.
She was writing a paper for school and asked what else other than "dad's girlfriend" that she could call me. She wanted to call me 'big sister', I said it wasn't very accurate..
I asked her dad to talk to her about it. I honestly think if her mom would give her a little comfort in knowing that she's okay with us dating, that this label thing wouldn't be an issue. But she barely sees her mom, and she's not exactly stable.

I just wonder if she just needs more time to get adjusted to the idea of her dad and I being a couple.

On a side note- we have always gotten along well, his daughter and I. We laugh, play, she shares secrets with me..

thanks for all your insights.



View replies by

Michelle - posted on 09/17/2013




My children from my first marriage call my husband by his first name or call him Step Dad.
Before we were married it was just his first name and if that needed elaborating it was Mum's boyfriend.
Let her choose what she calls you and let her know that it's completely up to her and that you have no intention of replacing her Mother.

Jodi - posted on 09/17/2013




Why does she feel uncomfortable calling you dad's girlfriend? That's what you are. What does her mum think she should be calling you?

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms