Celine - posted on 09/16/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )
I've been living with my boyfriend and his 10 yr.old daughter for a year now, we've been hanging out the three of us for 2 years. His ex and him have been separated for 3 years.
His daughter has always struggled with a name for me. Her mother has not moved on and is clearly uncomfortable with being 'replaced'. Although I don't see it that way.
For this reason I believe their daughter has loyalty issues with mom and therefore feels weird about calling me her dad's girlfriend.
She was writing a paper for school and asked what else other than "dad's girlfriend" that she could call me. She wanted to call me 'big sister', I said it wasn't very accurate..
I asked her dad to talk to her about it. I honestly think if her mom would give her a little comfort in knowing that she's okay with us dating, that this label thing wouldn't be an issue. But she barely sees her mom, and she's not exactly stable.
I just wonder if she just needs more time to get adjusted to the idea of her dad and I being a couple.
On a side note- we have always gotten along well, his daughter and I. We laugh, play, she shares secrets with me..
thanks for all your insights.