OTR Truck drivers wife

Victoria - posted on 04/04/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My husband and I have only been together for a couple of years and I am now pregnant with our first child. Before we got pregnant we were both on the road driving together and everything was great. We came off the road when we found out we were pregnant to try to start our family. This was very stressful and we just couldn't make it financially, so we decided that he would go back out while I stayed home and took care of myself and my 3 year old whom I have from a previous marriage. It has been about 2 months now where he has been back on the road and financially we are doing much better. He stays gone for 4 weeks at a time and comes home for maybe 2 days if I am lucky. Recently things have been getting very tense and we have been fighting alot.I haven't seen him in over a month since the last time he came home and being pregnant and hormonal, I feel like I am just alone. The fighting has gotten so bad that he says he doesn't want to be with me anymore and is not coming home till I have the baby. I am 33 weeks pregnant and the pregnancy hasn't been exactly a smooth one. I don't know if him being over the road has changed his mind about being with me or if he just doesn't love me anymore? I am completely lost and have no idea what to do? I love him with all my heart, but he says he just doesn't want to be with me anymore.

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Victoria - posted on 04/06/2015

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Thank you Chana
That helps to hear that it's not just me who thinks this is hard.
we have been talking more lately and I think we are going to go to counseling together.

Chana - posted on 04/06/2015

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Being in the family with an OTR trucker is tough. My father in law does that so I married into the family but it is hard. He is gone usually 10-14 days at a time so we try to plan family functions around that but it isn't always easy. When he gets home for his 2 or 3 days he always has things he needs or wants to get done. He is 65 and my mother in law is 64 but they still want their time too so it isn't easy. My husband and I end up doing a lot of things because we live right next door to them. Being an OTR family requires a lot of patience. Try getting some counseling it may help both with your relationship and with dealing with being an OTR family. Hugs to you and your family.

Victoria - posted on 04/06/2015

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Thank you so much for your response. I am definitely willing to go to counseling and hopefully I can get him to do the same.

Michelle - posted on 04/04/2015

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I really think you both need to get into marriage counseling. He may think he feels that way because you aren't arguing when he is on the road but when you are together you argue. He could really be feeling miserable because he wants to be home but can't make enough to support you. He could feel like a failure.
These are thing you both really need to discuss together and sometimes having a 3rd party helps.

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