Thomas - posted on 03/25/2014 ( no moms have responded yet )
Hello all, I am new to the parenting biz but still I have a big problem I would very much like to get some advice. My girlfriend has two wonderful children, age 8 and 10, a boy and a girl. She shares cust. with her ex husband. The kids go week by week. Every time the kids have to go over to him, the little girl start crying, acting up, hyperventilating to the point she actually has to throw up and can hardly breathe anymore. She says, her step mom always is so mean to her, calling her names like wimp and so on. She told us, that last time her step mom actually threw hands full of dirt at her while they did some gardening. I do believe her because I had the "pleasure" of meeting the step mom and she showed very bad manners toward me. She is ex army and rules the family over there by commanding the kids and by fear. We told litlle lady to tell about these thing, to go to dad. She said, she did and her dad just said, can't be helped. We know that dad is sort of afraid of his new wife because he fears she would leave him and he would be on his own again, having to do all things of life himselves again. So, please can somebody tell us what to do about this situation. My GF tryed to talk to her ex but with no success, he reacts very aggressive towards her, pretents to be in control of the situation over there. But we know from both kids, he is not, even though little man is very much a daddys boy he sazs, that dad does not help them, does not stand up for them against step mom. Again: What can we do? We need some help here please. Thanks.
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