Out of Control Child

Sara - posted on 11/19/2016 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My 12 year-old daughter is completely out of control. We have had issues with her since she started school. Pre-k seemed fine and then she did a complete flip and I can't handle her anymore. She has been diagnosed with ADHD and also ODD (Oppositional Defiance Disorder). She has lied to the point of CPS visiting my home and her fathers, she steals, and doesn't have an empathy toward anyone, just cares about herself. She is abusive to her 6-year old sister and purposely destroys everyone's things. When we are alone and she is the center of attention, she is fine but as soon as her siblings are around, she acts out. Just tonight she was eating a sucker and stuck it into the carpet. She was sent to her room for other disruptive behavior and when I found the sucker stick I had her come out and asked her to pick it up. She rolled her eyes and picked it up and said to me "it's not THAT hard to pick it up!" she was saying it to me as if I should have picked it up. I am just fed up with her to the point that I am ready to surrender my rights and hand her over to the state. I live in a rural area and there is no help here for children with mental health issues and her father is no longer in the picture. She is disruptive to the health of my marriage and both of her siblings. I feel like I need help and I don't know where to turn. She makes life unbearable at times.

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Ev - posted on 11/20/2016

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She has an IEP there should be some therapy should be able to get some services...pulbic schools should be placing services to you to be available.

Sara - posted on 11/19/2016

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When she was in elementary school we had a meeting since she has an IEP (she has behavior problems at school that have gotten her removed from her regular classroom and placed with a crisis intervention team). They helped me get on a rush list for a counselor in the area but, other than counseling which she refuses to cooperate with, the counselor recommends a child psychologist which we have been on a waiting list for several years for.

Sara - posted on 11/19/2016

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We have plenty of rules and consequences. She was already in her room for misbehavior. She's had privileges taken, she's been grounded, she doesn't care about consequences at all. I've been trying to get help for years and all I get is a waiting list for a physiologist 40 minutes from here. There are no resources where I live for children with mental health issues and disabilities.

Ev - posted on 11/19/2016

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So you do not have rules and consequences and there has to be some sort of help she can get.

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