SiMpLiCiTy - posted on 12/19/2013 ( 10 moms have responded )
My sister moved in with me in August, she's going through a divorce, her kids are 6 & 7 boy being the oldest, girl youngest. Ever since they moved in, my 3 year old daughter has gotten the worst attitude ever. They are so mean to their mom, they treat her like dirt and walk all over her. They tell her what to do, climb on counters and get knives and just anything they wanna do, her son is always getting in her daughters face screaming "I'm gonna punch you in the face" not to mention they are destroying my home, but back on topic. My 3 year old has now started acting just like them, she yells at them and her little sister and us. Talks back constantly and won't listen to anything we tell her to do and when she wants something, she doesn't ask for it she immediately throws a tantrum and we have to ask her what she wants, normally bc of the tantrum, she doesn't get what she wanted. She's never been like this, she's always been such a good little girl. They even showed her how to open the door and go outside and I heard the door open one night and she was outside on the porch all by herself when she was supposed to be in bed, we had to buy chain locks so she couldn't reach them and open the door. I am so frustrated with this attitude. I have to walk away from her several times bc it's so bad I feel like slapping her. I would never hit my baby, so don't take it that way, that's why I walk away and let her dad deal with her or just walk away and calm down if he isn't home. I have on the other hand found myself yelling at her and had to walk away and come back and apologize. I can't stand this attitude, it's enough to drive you insane. The way those kids talk to my sister, I could pop them in the mouth and my 3 year old is starting to act just the same and in turn that's causing my 1 year old to start acting the same, although she's very little and doesn't know any better I'm afraid the longer she's around it, that's all she's gonna pick up on. My 3 year old went from having great manners, please, thank you, excuse me, your welcome, bless you, no thank you...etc. to having none at all. She's even started spitting in ppls face including mine and that's is so disrespectful I'm just not gonna put up with it. I've tried spanking, no tv or toys, corner, couch, bed, etc. nothing works and I absolutely hate yelling at her, but lately that seems to be the only way she will listen. There has to be another way, I will not raise my kids this way, I should not have to yell at her to get her to listen to me. I'm a stay at home mom right now, just finished school and trying to get the job I'm going for, normally through the day, through the week it's just me and my kids here, but weekends its all of us and we leave to separate the kids and get them out of the house. My sister is also very rude to me. All we asked of her when she moved in was to help keep the house clean, she won't even do that, she comes home from work and sits on her phone from then until she goes to bed. When I say something to her about the stuff she does she gets irate, she starts screaming at me. Before she moved in I was going to her house, getting her kids off the bus, doing their homework with them plus watching mine, waiting for her to get off work then she would bring us home. One day I told her that this was getting hard bc I had missed 3 weeks of class to help her and I had a life too and she started screaming at me in front of all the kids, my 3 year old told her to shut up and leave me alone if that tells you anything. Well she started bitching about my parenting skills and how I wouldn't let her 6 year old play with my 10 month old. (Bc she's to rough and always bangs her head off the floor) then she screamed, "you hate my daughter I know you do," right in front of her and ever since then my niece thinks I hate her. I love my niece and nephew with all my heart, I took care of them from the time they were born til 2&3 years old at 16-18 years old until I met my husband and moved out and still doing a lot for them now. Please help, don't know how to deal with all of this!