out of control children

Renae Jane - posted on 07/09/2013 ( 5 moms have responded )

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does anyone have any tips on how to handle my sons out burst one min his happy the next hes gone nuts it goes on all day and most days im losing my mind, its like he need constant entertainment if he doesnt get what he wants he's bad for sooking alot lately ive lost patience

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Sarah - posted on 07/11/2013

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I would say that is your problem then....If you give him what he wants most of the time you only create a monster. As this is what you are starting to see. Because the rest of the world is not going to give into his demands he is going to have to deal with the consequences at a higher level. For a 2 or 3 yr old a consequence for not giving into their demands is listening to them have a fit. They then learn that not every thing they ask for are they going to get even if they cry, scream, throw themselves down, etc. Well, if that is not taught at that age then they hit school age and the teachers are not going to give into their demands well then you have suspension, loss of friends, etc. If it is still not taught at that age then you have an adult that can't keep a job, does not have very many friends, and does not do well in a relationship. Time to STOP GIVING IN and DEAL WITH THE FITS!!!! If your boyfriend is part of the problem then maybe he should not be a boyfriend anymore. You have to put your child's needs first.

Ev - posted on 07/10/2013

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Do you give him everything he wants? Do you give into his demands? How old is he?

If he is a toddler to age five, he needs to learn there are limits and that he can not demand things of you. Take care of his needs by all means but when the start to get to talking and asking for things or learn to point to things it does not mean you give in every time. If he is throwing fits about it, then actively ignore it so he is still safe. Once he realizes you are not going to react then he will stop. He may also be seeking attention in any way or form he can do it. Again active ignoring will help here. Once they see you set the limits they will learn.

If you are giving in the time to stop is now because if you let it go on, he will walk all over you as a teen.

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Renae Jane - posted on 07/11/2013

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hi he's 9 and yes i give him what he wants most of the time, i do the ignoreing thing and just leave him alone, but my boyfriend makes it difficult he doesn't ignore and eggs him on and it ends up in a screaming match. everytime we go to the shops thats the worst place i always tell them what is happening before we go, but the end up asking for everything. only once ive ever been to the shop and got what i needed without drama, and i try to get them to help me shop.

Renae Jane - posted on 07/11/2013

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hi yeh he has one activity martial art on tuesday with his best mate, and yes hes very popular at school this is the first yr at school hes been in lost of trouble, been suspended 4 times now he has to go to a good behaviour program 2 days a week.

Erica - posted on 07/10/2013

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I feel your pain. I'm searching for help or comfort too! I have my 2 going at each other all the time. How old is your boy? Is he in any activities? Friends?

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