User - posted on 01/24/2009 ( 17 moms have responded )
When I first started dating my fiance, I LOVED his Mother and I LOVED his whole family. We got along great. We had always done stuff together, she'd invite us to diner. We would go out to movies, that sort of thing. They were very extattic to find out that my fiance' and I were pregnant. This was her first grandchild. She even through a BIG baby shower for me. (which I will forever be greatful) But than, the baby came.
I should have seen the signs, but I didn't. I hadn't the foggest what was going to come. Now, to be far to the Mother In Law. We moved, we moved four hours away and abruptly. Charlie was sick in the hosptail for a month and a half. (Bad labor) We had to transfer him directly to sickkids hosptail.
Under the circumstances we had to move. We moved quickly and into my parent's basement. I do not think she has fully forgiven me for moving. The first time she came down, I was excited. I had not seen her for several months now and was looking forward to the visit. I did not expect her to be overbearing and 'taking over'. It was disappointing. I had to pretty much PULL my son away from her grasp. I understand why she was the way she was and I smpathized. But, when she repeatly , gives him baths without asking me. Makes, snide comments. Sometime's she doesn't even let me comfort my own child. Saying, Charlie is HER baby. To that I got really angry and told her off in the most polite way possible. (I won't get into her explanation). That's not even the half of it. I am sure we have all our Mother IN law stories...
I questioned, would this maddness end? or is this going to continue? I want my Son to have a good relationship with his other side of the family. I try my best. That is all anyone can hope for. I still like them, has people. But, find my 'Love' for them his dwindling.