Patricia - posted on 01/12/2013 ( 6 moms have responded )
I have been reading past posts on the stepmother boundary thing. I am writing as the birth mother. While I understand a good relationship and allowing my daughter's stepmom to partake in some things, I believe there are boundaries that need to be followed. In my experience, the stepmom has overstepped her role many times and even though we all get along (now) and I am open with them when I am hurt, both the ex and his wife disregard anything I have to say or how I feel. I pick and chose my battles and actually let a lot go for the sake of my daughter. However, why do I constantly have to be the one eating crow as they say all the time? I agree social activities are fine but school matters do hold a fine line. Crossing over boundaries are going to happen and if she crossed over them unknowingly, then so be it. However, she does know after many conversations and still chooses to act like she is the bio mom. What can I do? Latest stint had me in tears. She signed up as a chaperone for daughter's field trip without checking with me first. In doing so, she blocked me out of a spot to go even though my daughter specifically asked me to go. That is a cherished bonding moment/ memory she is taking away from me, her mother. Even after trying to talk to them, they will not respond.