Maria - posted on 12/03/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )
This is my first time writing in for myself! Everyone seems SO helpful, I figured it was about time!
I am a 43 year old mother of 2 with a husband who drinks too much. We have a 14 year old boy in 9th grade and an 11 year old daughter in 6th grade. About 8 weeks ago for the 2nd time in our 15 year marriage, we started seeing a family therapist together.
The biggest problem I need help with is my daughter! She and I have always butted heads to a point, but in the past 4 weeks it has been terrible! ( I NEVER thought my relationship with my daugher would be SO trying!!) She is sassy, snotty, bratty....the list goes on...I know, part of this is my fault for letting her get away with things for too long...BUT, we talk and talk and she seems to get it but them it is the same thing over and over again! She yells at me, doesn't listen, doesn't respond to groundings or things taken away from her...Is this just the beginning of having a teenage daughter????
My son is a dream come true! Yes, we have our problems but he is 95% of the time polite, kind hearted and tries to help whenever he can!
I HATE arguing with my daughter every day! I hate the yelling, the "Drama Queen" aspect and I have talked about it in from of her with the Therapist and we both always say we are going to work on it...I can only controle my helling back to a point! Please help if you can! I would love all constructive criticism! I do know that I need more patients and am part of the problem, but I can not be walked on by my 11 year old child! She NEVER does this to her father! He does not hurt her, but there is an amount of "fear" there that obviously I do not have!
I feel like so many of you do I am sure, I do EVERYTHING for my children, and hate that they have more respect for their father than for me!
Thanks for listening and for any help you can offer!