Carole - posted on 06/12/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )
Several years ago, my daughter Gretchen and I had a wonderful close relationship. My ex and I were getting along well and were even considering reconciliation that is until he met Jessica Withers on eharmony. I begged her not to marry my ex that we were a family and that we had three children. On March 8, my ex William texted me and he wanted to go to Vegas to get remarried. On March 10th was their first date, they were engaged in April and married three months later. I thought he was in love, but just a year ago he told me he still loved me and that I was his soul mate and that the reason he married this Jessica woman was because she has a lot of family trust fund money and she has connections in Tucson where she is from. I'm writing this because all three of my children have severely suffered because of my ex and this woman. First they turned my daughter against me. I had full custody when we filed for divorce in Washington, I gave my ex joint custody for the betterment of the kids. They convinced Gretchen to stay with them full time. Ever since my daughter lived with them full time, she has turned against. When my ex hated me (he was still bitter about the divorce) he called me names one was psychopath. I received a text from my daughter several days later calling me the exact same name. She was 15 at the time. I was floored. This couldn't be my daughter. I was completely cut out of my daughter's life by my ex and his new wife. I was excluded from doctor's appointments, when they registered the kids for school, they had Jessica listed as mother, my address was wrong, my email was wrong and my phone number was listed as an alternate phone number. I was never invited to any of my daughter's rugby matches. She got braces and casts without my knowledge. When I called to make an appointment for my son, the dental office didn't believe I was the mother. I had to convince them, they had Jessica listed as mother. Jessica and my ex tried to "buy" my son, he refused and decided to live with me. They ridiculed him, called him "buckethead" and why can't you be more like Gretchen. They took his truck back that they gave him, Jessica made his bedroom into an office right away. They drove my son into a depression that they now try to blame on hypothyroidism. My son tried to commit suicide. I don't think he really meant to, I think it was just a cry for help. My daughter Gretchen blamed me, called me horrible names, would not talk to me, look at me and when I showed up for school events, just glared at me. Things have gotten a lot better since my husband had a change of heart about me. I'm not really sure what happened in his marriage, but after two years, he was back in love with me. Gretchen is now at least talking to me. She tells me she loves me, but things are definitely not the same. When my ex William and Jessica first got married, they didn't even tell my eight year old that they were getting married. William had just met this woman on the internet, they told my daughter Erika to wear a dress and to throw flowers. When they were driving back from Tucson, my daughter asked who this woman was and Jessica replied that SHE was her mom now. This did not sit well with Erika, so Erika does not like this woman. I know I have said a lot of things, but I really hate this woman. She has caused nothing but problems in this family. I know my husband does not love her, is just using her for her money. He told me it was a shame that I didn't marry a doctor I had dated, as he could have taken care of our children like this woman is. My husband lost his job and is now living off this woman. I'm just sick with everything that has happened. I know I will never have the love and respect I once had with Gretchen. My son Jacob is doing well, but he has not graduated from high school yet. We are working on it. My daughter Erika is a beautiful bright child and I hope that Jessica and my ex do not do to her what they did to Gretchen.