Parenting Biological Child and Stepchildren

Tiffany - posted on 09/05/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I need advice from other moms. My 5 year old son and I moved in with my fiancé (my son's father) and his children from his first marriage (ages 12 and 18) one year ago. My fiancé and I have been together for 8 years, so the kids have known me for a long time and I've been an integral part of their lives. However, living together has been a major challenge for all. I feel that my stepkids intensely dislike their younger, half-brother and wish that he and I would just disappear. The fiancé and I purchased a home together in January, in effort to give everyone their own space and reduce the mine vs. theirs issues. We're not exactly the Brady Bunch. I feel like I'm at my wits end. I love all three children, but sometimes I feel like collecting my biological child and heading for the hills.

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Michelle - posted on 09/05/2013

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Well the older children are at the stage where they don't want a younger sibling hanging around annoying them. The 18yo is trying to make the transition into adulthood and the lest thing they need is 5yo bugging them.
The 12yo should be more tolerant though and it's up to both of you to lay down the rules of how everyone is to be treated in the house.
Let all the children know how you expect everyone to behave and treat each other while in your house. Let them know that they do have their own rooms to go to if their brother is getting annoying but it's not to be used as their whole world. They are expected to socialize with the rest of the family as well.

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Tiffany - posted on 09/06/2013

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Thank you for the response and perspective, Michelle. I really appreciate it. Sometimes, when you're in the middle of the storm, it's it difficult to see beyond it.

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