Lynne - posted on 01/02/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )
We are 50+ grandparents raising 2 grandsons 11 and 15 because their parents chose drugs over the kids. We love our grandsons who have now lived with us for two years but recently my husband has begun to resent them. He asked me once if I would leave him if I had to choose between them - of course I said no. Since then he has been distant toward them and makes the entire household a tense place. He either says nothing to them or yells at them - he actively looks for things to yell about. The oldest one already has emotional issues that we take him to therapy for (it does make him hard to deal with at times and this seems to be the biggest issue) My husband can't seem to accept that everyone is not "normal" by his definition but you don't dispose of them. I truly don't know what to do - we have been married for over 35 years, I love him but don't love living this way and am not about to dump these boys - they have already been through hell! Please advise - I came here because you are all so helpful and encouraging to each other !