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Suzzy - posted on 10/28/2015 ( 8 moms have responded )

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My daughter is almost 12 months old and her dad and split when she was 4 months. He only saw a few during the summer. I requested child support and he took me to court in September for 50/50 he wasn't granted it but he gets Tuesdays and Thursdays for 2.5 hours than every other saturday night. This is a temporary order- we go back in January and he keeps threatening me that he is going to get 50/50 com Jan. Can he really?? I am in Washington State

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Ev - posted on 10/28/2015

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Shawnn and the others are right. I am the parent that had agreed to dad being primary care and residence of the children because I could not fight him in court. I got the every other weekend, half of the 4th weekend, any 5th weekend, and the holidays split on the visitation roster. It was just a suggested thing but that was what we went by. Its not fun being the parent that has only partial time with the kids. I had as much to give them as he did. He just did not want to pay me child support because he found out what it was like when I got full temp custody earlier in the spring of 2002. We could not do 50-50 split because he lived to far away from me and the kids were in school where he lived. I could not afford the 100 mile trip every day to get them to school and still get myself to work on time. Trust me, co parenting this day and age is hard enough without bringing up what makes it better for the mom or the dad.

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Sarah - posted on 10/30/2015

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Lebzalady, your response has nothing to do with the topic of the thread. Start your ow thread if you want feedback.

Suzzy,, unless he is truly an alcoholic, which is something can be addressed at the hearing in January, he absolutely can get 50/50. Would you prefer the tables were turned and you only got 5 hours a week and every other Saturday night? If he desires to parents, why not welcome him? Learn to co-parent successfully. He is perfectly capable of caring for her at 12-15 months.

Lebzalady - posted on 10/29/2015

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My 8years old daughter is stuborn and doesn't care about her school work. Please give tips on how to handle this ,i have decided not to pay for the fun day at school is it a bad desition.

Dove - posted on 10/28/2015

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Yes he can... and it's your daughter's right to an equal relationship w/ both parents.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/28/2015

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At this point, he has a much chance as you of 50/50. I don't understand why women perpetually determine that the man (who was good enough to have sex with) has no business wanting to be a parent...but it's most definitely not the right way of approaching the situation.
Rather than attempt to figure out how you can stop him from getting his parental rights, how about working with him to be a co parent? It works out MUCH better that way...especially for the child who has the absolute right to have both parents in their lives (more than "every other weekend")

Michelle - posted on 10/28/2015

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They aren't really valid reasons to deny shared care. My 2nd son was 1 when I left his Father and we did shared care from the start. To start off with we did week about but as they have gotten older we do longer.
To make shared care work properly, you do need to be closer. Especially when the child starts school.
Just because you had an every 2nd weekend Dad (so did I) doesn't mean it was the best way. Children have a right to have an equal relationship with both parents. You need to think of your child, not what you want.

Suzzy - posted on 10/28/2015

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I feel she is too young and he has a slight drinking problem that makes me very concerned. We live 45 minutes away each way...I came from a split family and my dad was a every other weekend parent and it worked just fine.

Michelle - posted on 10/28/2015

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Of course he can. He has as much right as you do to have custody.
Why are you so concerned about shared care? It can work and your child can still grow up to be a wonderful person. I have done shared care for over 10 years and my children are now 14 and 11. They are very well balanced and mannered boys.

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