Parents of step kids and bio kids...

Angel - posted on 10/15/2016 ( 10 moms have responded )

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Is it wrong to go to get family pictures done and get a variety of different shots and one of them shots being you your spouse and the baby you share together without the child from a previous marriage? And also getting a shot of all 4 of you together?

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/17/2016

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But she did not mention a photo with just the step kid, herself, and hubby, either, leading me to believe that she feels her family is only herself, hubby, and bio kid.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/16/2016

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Nia, that was absolutely fine, the way you handled things . Simply leaving the other child out altogether is what is not ok

Nia - posted on 10/16/2016

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True, but my stepson didn't feel sad or out of place me, my husband and our daughter we have together took a picture at the photo shoot. After we took a few shots we had pictures of just my stepson, husband and I as well.

Everyone was happy!

Ev - posted on 10/16/2016

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I have to say if you are with the step kids and take pictures then you should have them all in the photos with you and hubby and the baby. If it is just you, hubby and child then it is fine to do a picture of the three of you. But if you are doing pro pictures for family shots do several shots of you with all the kids, him with all the kids, then just all the kids but do not do a shot of the whole family and then one of the three of you ( him, you and the baby). It sends a clear message to the kids that way on where they stand. When my daughter married she had step sibs, step mom and bride's family, and grooms family too. We did do one pose where I am actually in the picture with her and the groom and her dad and step family and brother. It is not a picture I wanted to do but for her I did. It is not a bad one either. And it is the only one too.

Nia - posted on 10/16/2016

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I don't think anything is wrong with it if you also take a picture of maybe just you, your husband and the step kids alone too.
The child you two share together deserves to have a picture of just the three of you.

Michelle - posted on 10/15/2016

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I have had professional photo's done and in them there were shots with all of us, just my husband and myself, just the boys, just myself, husband and daughter, just my husband and daughter and then all 3 kids. I have 2 boys from my 1st marriage and my daughter is from my 2nd.
I think if there is a variety then I don't see the issue. If you are just having photo's of all 4 and just you 3 then there's an issue. A combination of everyone is the best.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/15/2016

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Selfish thing to do, in my opinion. Are you all a family, or not? That's like me saying that I want a picture with only my biological brothers but not the adopted one, just not right. You are either ALL a family, or you are not, and if you are not, why take "family" pictures?

Sarah - posted on 10/15/2016

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I would agree with Jodi. Not a smart thing to do if you are wanting family unity. The other kids already feel a sense of disconnect just with being step kids. There are SO many issues that come into play when the two of you have a child that I would not put more things that create more issues.

Jodi - posted on 10/15/2016

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Well, it kind of is wrong if you are wanting to convey to the step-children that they are part of the family. Personally, I wouldn't do it. I mean, my husband and I have plenty of photos together with just our biological daughter, but they weren't done to specifically exclude the other during a photo shoot, it is more because the other children happened not to be around at the time. If you are specifically doing a family shoot, then the step children are part of yoru family, period.

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