partner who is TOTALLY unconcerned about money...

Lindz - posted on 03/12/2010 ( 10 moms have responded )

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my fiance and my daughter's dad is totally unconcerned about money. He spends most of his pay checks and saves almost nothing. I keep telling him that we NEED to save money for our future but he just doesnt seems to care. i dont know what to do, but i know that i would like to move my daughter and i out of my parents house someday! ( he lives with his parents) just a little slice of info also im 18 & he is 22 almost 23 shouldn't i be in inmature one? guess not huh?

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Sheree - posted on 03/13/2010

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My hubby also has no clue with money. If something were to happen to me, he would have no idea what bills needed to be paid and when, or how much they are. I think its a man thing, my stepdad is the same. They just think its there so it has to be spent. I just look after our finances and usually its all good :)

Lindz - posted on 03/13/2010

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i just feel bad that it seems like he just has NO clue. Every1 has tried to explain to him, about money and the importance of saving and controling his spending but it just goes in one ear and out the other.. he really doesnt care what people have to say. he does what he wants

Nadia - posted on 03/12/2010

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I suggest looking into a financial literacy program like Dave Ramsey's Financial Peace University... My boyfriend and I went through it and we have not argued about money in over a year... It was amazing. If he will not go with you, go by yourself! You have a child to take care of!!! www.daveramsey.com

Lindz - posted on 03/12/2010

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i hope he does sooner than 24 or 25. next yr my mom wants alice and i to move out..

Teresa - posted on 03/12/2010

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he should start wising up around 24 or 25 years old. we all do. in the mean time, try the job thing instead of sitting around at home if you get too desparate. you might be pleasently surpirsed to find that you can make ends meet.... if ever a time to try that it would be now that the baby is not dependant on your income...

Lindz - posted on 03/12/2010

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yes his dad has always provided everything he's wanted/needed. but he was also kinda abused as a child also (he was a monster of a kid) he was ADHD. and is just like a kid. that' s the best way to put it. a lot of the time his exuse is " oh my dad will pay for it, he loves me" like with parking tickets and stuff like that. it makes me sooo mad because he doesnt know how hard it is going to be in the future

Lexi - posted on 03/12/2010

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i can totally sympathise with how u are feeling....im not in the exact situation but my partner..babies daddy is so useless with money too....its almost like if he has money he has to spend it,whether its $10 or $100...i tried saying u dont need to spend every bit but does he listen...NO!!!!.....The only good thing is least its spent on our son.not drugs,alchol,gambling or on himself.....but the things he does buy are not needed....u wouldnt believe the amount of toys we have double and treble of and the clothes my son has never worn could dress 6 more kids.......i appreciate what he is doing as he thinks it will help but that money could go towards our future......I dont know what to say to help....but iv started to go shopping with him now and he is a lot better,iv also showed him how much material items we have really got and i think he is starting to finally see sense.......i really hope he changes soon...how old is ur daughter?maybe it will just take time for him to ajust to having to save for his child......has he always had an easy life with money(parents buy him everything)maybe thats the problem...good luck

Lindz - posted on 03/12/2010

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no we are going to have to save for like a year! like really saving and spending nothing. i live in southern california and i dont work coz if i got a job then it would all go to day care so its pointless, i would rather raise my kid. but anyway we could move out if we actually tried but he was no ambiances to leave his parents house and he's just so kid like.. he is 23 but acts and has the mental compasity of a 15 yr old.

Angelia - posted on 03/12/2010

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My husband is the same way. We are both 28 and if he has any cash, it's gone. This may sound dumb but I have to basically give him an allowance. He should be old enough now to know better than to spend it all. (Mine, not yours) Lol. Well yours too. Would you guys be able to afford to move out of your parents house even without saving alot of money?

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