Tanya - posted on 04/24/2010 ( 225 moms have responded )
My partner of 6 years is paying child support to a 7 year old child that is not biologically his. After he found out he immediately cut ties with the child because he thinks it would just hurt even more and she deserves to know the truth. Also, he was never able to see the child on a regular basis. It was twice a month until he lost his job. We don't live together yet, but he has never had money for our son because he pays 400 a month to child support, again for a child who isn't biologically his. He lost his job in 7/2009 and they're now threatening him to suspend his license and of course back child support because he isn't paying right now. When he lost his job the mother told him since he's not paying he can't see the child. He had absolutely no idea this child wasn't his until the 2 year period was over. We also have no idea who the real father is. He did sign the birth certificate because he thought the child was his. The mother waited until she was 3 to put him on child support because they broke up when the child was only 6 months old. I guess that should have been a sign right there but we really didn't think anything of it. After we took one of those paternity test it came back 0% possibility. My boyfriend text and asked her if she ever cheated during their relationship and if there is any possibility that the child could not be his. She flat out lied and said she never cheated ever.... and there is no possible way the child is not his. I would never think to pin my children on another man, but apparently there are many out there who do. The mothers, child support and the state. I appreciate the laws in place to help those dads who run from their responsibilities. How about those victims such as my boyfriend who have been victimized by deceiving and lying mothers who now can't take care of their real children because they have to take care of another man's child? The state say it's about the child not money.. Really? Child support wants money... state gets federal dollars because child support gets money.... Family court wants money..... the mother wants money..... Mother is on state assistance so welfare wants money...non biological father will be put in jail if he doesn't pay money.. and its not about money? So they say it's about the child.. Yes absolutely the child is going to be hurt just like the father. Is it the father's fault? No it's the mother. Is teaching the child to live a lie ok? No it's not.. What if something medically happened to that child and she needed a donor or something and there is no biological father to save her life? Doesn't she have the right to know who she really is and where she came from. Part of who we are biologically also has to do with family medical history... Does she not have that right? Since we're talking about best interest of the child… How about the victim's real children who have to go without because money is going out of the home? They are children involved so why are their best interest not considered? There are cases across the country where families have lost their homes because of this. One man was even paying to a child who was living with her mother and her biological father. How crazy is that for someone to pay the parents so they can take care of their own child. Why not make the real fathers pay for their children. The senators are lucky because I am done having children. If not... I would have a baby and name one of their husbands the father and get support from them to see how they really like it. My boyfriend has never been in trouble with law, paid his taxes, and served the military. The mother on the other hand can't hold down a job, stays on state assistance, and now trying to get SSI so she doesn't have to work. She sure can party though. State awards her for her irresponsibility. I work full time, take care of my 3 kids, go to school, and pay my taxes like everyone else and this doesn't seem fair at all. The laws need to change! Other states have changed the laws so I am pretty sure Washington can as well. They put people to jail because of fraud. How is this any different? We are in the early stages of this, so we're researching and trying to find out what are best options are at this point. One thing is for sure... We are not going down without a big fight! Please help stand up and fight against paternity fraud in Washington state! Any thoughts on this?
Very frustrated mom against Paternity fraud