Pay for watching family...

Terra - posted on 03/16/2015 ( 9 moms have responded )

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I watch my nephew and have been for 6 months. She has not paid and I asked that she start , to help me out a bit. She refuses too.. what should I say/do?

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 03/16/2015

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This is probably not going to end well. Hindsight being what it is, I'm sure you now realize that a contract would have solved any issues.

Try to sit down with her and work out a reasonable contract for services. If she is not willing to pay you, then give her a definite end date for you watching her kiddo, and enforce that date.

Next time, have a contract ready. It doesn't have to be some stuffy, notarized document, just a document with terms and conditions agreed upon by both, as indicated by their signatures at the bottom.

Good luck.

Chana - posted on 03/16/2015

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Was there any discussion of payment when you started watching your nephew? If you agreed to watch him without being paid then in my opinion that is your problem and if you no longer want to do it for free and she doesn't want to pay then you need to give her time(most daycares ask for a 3 week notice before leaving) to make other arrangements. Now if you are watching him at her house and eating her food, using her electricity, etc. that is another issue. If you are watching him at your house and using your food to feed him etc. than she should provide sometime of reimbursement. I watched my sister children during the summers when I was younger and she did not pay me but I was at their house eating their food, using there electricity, etc. so did not expect to be paid, although at the end of the summer she did give me a nice check to go back to college.

Lucitta - posted on 03/17/2015

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This may be a little late, but if your sister does not appreciate you watching her son, then I would stop.
Yes, he is family, and you shouldn't REQUIRE payment, but as your sister she should recognize that you need a bit of help, and be more then willing to help you, as you are helping her.

Sarah - posted on 03/16/2015

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This is not going to end well. You are both going to end up with some huge resentments. Tell her for the sake of your relationship that you will give you three weeks to find childcare. Then you will both need a cooling off period.

Dove - posted on 03/16/2015

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Doesn't sound like you watching him is a good fit for you. You are either going to have to accept the way she is being or 'lay down the law'... let her know that she has 2 weeks (or a similar time frame) to start paying you the $40/week (so... in 2 weeks she can give you $80) or find alternate child care.... and good luck to her finding someone to watch her kid for $40/WEEK!

She also needs to bring two spare sets of clothes for you to keep at your house. That way if/when he has an accident you can trade out the messy stuff for the clean stuff and wash and keep the messy stuff for the next time.

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K4krystalking - posted on 03/18/2015

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I'm sorry that is the most craziest thing ever I appreciate and reward everyone who help me with my child. Let her know he's not your responsibility you help her to be nice, and she needs to start appreciating you.

Terra - posted on 03/16/2015

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When I started watching him, she had just started her job, I told her when she became established in her job that I would like to be paid. I gave her 6 months and thought since her job is stable/consistent that now would be time. I'm a stay at home mom of 4 and it would be nice to have a little $ of my own....she also watches a couple kids before and after school so she's receiving that extra pay. I asked for 40 a week, she thru a fit and offered 25 a week. She paid one week this last week she brought two extra puddings and two extra yogurts and said sorry, I need to save my money. So I'm frustrated that I'm having to run my children along with hers around, meet all of my families needs and help her out for free. Also, she does bring him a lunch but it is in my home....also he's 4, he's had a couple accidents and I've had to use my sons clothes because she keeps "forgetting" extra clothes, when asking for my sons clothes back she says that she can't find his clothes and brought me some extras she had at her home. She actually got upset when I said I wanted his own clothes back. (She never has found them)

Sarah - posted on 03/16/2015

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Well depends on what you want to do. If you want to continue to watch him without pay then you say and do nothing. If you want to be paid then you set your price and a date that you need to have payment by if she does not pay then you stop watching him after that date. You have to decide which is more important to you.

Raye - posted on 03/16/2015

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You should sit down with your sibling (sister?) and talk nicely about your feelings that she's been taking advantage of you. If you have asked for a reasonable amount for watching your nephew, and you feel that you must now get paid for something you have been doing for free, then stop watching him if you don't get paid.

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