People are negative during your pregnacy

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Andrea - posted on 03/08/2014

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I found that the ones who were negative during my pregnancy were never really my friends and were jealous of my situation.. We weren't married when we had our oldest, got married when he was a year old and were 12 weeks with our middle, now after being married 5 years our youngest is almost 14 months... I have not talked to some one who claimed to be my best friend since middle school, in 6 almost 7 years... Haters will be haters.... You need to keep positive and upbeat... Just let her run her mouth and ignore her as she is trying to figure out how to handle your situation for you... Rest assure you got it under control, even if it doesn't feel like it right now... YOU GOT THIS!!!!

Tamsin - posted on 03/09/2014

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Ignore her. I was 15 and pregnant with my first then got pregnant again at 16. People constantly told me that I wouldn't be able to do anything and I'd live in poverty and my boyfriend would leave me. My boyfriend is still here, I'm still doing my schooling, We earn over $1k a week. We do have a lot of support but I found that when people were talking about me and saying nasty things it was just there way of showing that they were jealous of my life or upset with their own. Ignore the negativity because that's not helping pregnant mamas and once your bub is born continue to show everyone that they were wrong. Don't need to speak back, just act. And it will make them look silly.

Kayla - posted on 03/08/2014

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I would ignore. Everyone has something to say! If you ignore it, eventually they will get the hint.

[momoftwo] - posted on 03/07/2014

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I would say ignore but it depends on what rude things people are doing/saying to you.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 03/12/2014

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Or, you can take the 'other' route...develop some snappy (and snippy) comebacks.

For the "oh, you'll never finish school now": "Oh? I didn't realize you were psychic! Do many of your 'predictions' actually come true?"

For the "well that will be a handful": "Thanks for noticing! I am looking forward to staying active!"

For the "They'll only be a troublemaker": "Really? Speaking from experience?"

As always a pleasant smile and a "thank you for your input, I'll be sure to consider it" and walking away tends to shut them up.

I had the opposite problem. Because I didn't start looking my age until very recently, people assumed that I was an irresponsible teenager when pregnant with my eldest (I was 24 at the time, but didn't look any older than the HS girls in the neighborhood). I heard it ALL! I cannot believe how incredibly (and stupidly) judgmental people are about pregnancy in general, and teen pregnancy in particular. I had one guy take me up one side, and down the other about how I was doing the baby a 'disservice' by being pregnant at my age, and in my marital state. At that point, my hubby came in...and proceeded to tell HIM where he could put his asinine comments. His gf (one of my good friends) just looked at him in amazement...and then said "time for you to go...if you have no more understanding or compassion than that"...

I kind of looked at my responses this way: I'm pregnant, I'm bitchy, and if you open your mouth, you better be prepared for my response...Of course in my area we have a saying "Don't piss off the pregnant woman...she can get away with murder"...LOL

Hang in there mommy! Keep your head up, know that YOU are doing just fine. Everyone else? They need to check their attitudes.

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That's pretty much what I meant. I've been kind of out of it the last few days. sorry for the confusion lol

Jodi - posted on 03/12/2014

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I'm not denying that teen mothers can be treated badly (although I don't understand it), I'm saying I highly doubt it is because they are jealous. If it is other teen mothers who are simply jealous of your support network, that's not being jealous of you being pregnant, that's jealous of the level of support you have.

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@Gena and Jodi: You'd be surprised lol. There are some teen moms who live in my area and they have no support whatsoever. So when they found out that I had the support of my parents, my boyfriend, family, and other friends, they became jealous. But I never want anyone to feel sorry for me. Having sex at 15 was a mistake that I made, and no one should feel sorry for me. I just hope that my testimony is a lesson to others of what NOT to do

In Christ,
Kayla Charity :) ♥

Jodi - posted on 03/10/2014

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Yeah, people aren't nasty because they are jealous of a 15 year old being pregnant. People are nasty because they are nasty and rude people to begin with.

Gena - posted on 03/10/2014

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I would NEVER be jelouse of a 15 year old being pregnant.I would honostly feel abit sorry for them.They wont be normal teenagers anymore and most of them have a struggle someway or another.School/relationships/money etc.

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I feel ya!! People have been kinda rude to me during my pregnancy. I'm 15 and 3 months pregnant, and people call me a slut, a whore, and someone actually sent me a shoebox with a baby doll in it with gouged out eyes and fake blood all over it. It's terrible, but I just ignored them. My bf is living with me and we both work, and people are jealous of that- of the fact that I'm 15 and pregnant and as happy as can be. But forget the haters. Enjoy your pregnancy and the fact that soon, you'll get to hold an adorable little gift from heaven in your arms :))))

Nicole - posted on 03/09/2014

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I was having a premmy one dr at the hospital told me pretty much I had no chance I now have a 4 month old

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/08/2014

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Then stop associating with her. Easy as that. Tell her you need positive encouragement in your life, and if she cannot provide that, you no longer want her friendship.

Mommy2be - posted on 03/08/2014

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The reason why i say bipolar is because one day this person is nice than another she is rude. And im actually in my 3rd year of college its just like she does not seem happy she just say rude comments but you are right thank you :)

[momoftwo] - posted on 03/08/2014

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I agree with Jodi. I was pregnant at 16 and I'm now going on 23 with two kids and still struggling to finish school, people will always say stupid things. I got stared at and talked about all the time when I was 16 but I ignored it and definitely proved everyone wrong.
Like Kayla said, everyones got an opinion.

Jodi - posted on 03/08/2014

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Is she actually bipolar, or are you just saying that to describe her behaviour. I only ask because it is really inappropriate to take that very legitimate term and use it as a way of insulting someone.

I would suggest ignoring it and just doing what you need to do to finish school. However, this certain person is not completely wrong, in that it will be very difficult. The number of teens who get pregnant and then struggle to finish school is pretty high. However, you might be one of the ones who finishes, so keep your positive attitude and believe in yourself.

Mommy2be - posted on 03/08/2014

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Well theres a certain person who is always telling me i wont be able to finish school, that my baby that is still not born is going yo be a trouble maker, and just always putting me down, shes so bipolar

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