Rylee - posted on 01/06/2015 ( 12 moms have responded )
I have one post up regarding my oldest son, How to strip a father of his rights. Then, I have another post up about my husband, How he doesnt want to be in his kid life (with another woman he had a one night stand with) but his mom (the grandma) is in the kids life and its nerve racking to me... Well, Everyone is basically saying he needs to grow up and be a man. Yet, The post about my son they are all giving me advice and information on what i can or cant do.
First off, Mothers give up their kids all the time... Its called adoption. But, when the father does it its called being a "dead beat dad", "Sperm donor", "POS", or youll get the common "Do whats right he deserves to know his father". EXCUSE ME? I dont see ANYONE saying this to a woman whi gives there kid up to either just the father or to adoption.
My husband had a kid due to a one night stand, was told it could be his but never once was invited to ONE doctor appointment then was told it was her boyfriends at the time and she was POSITIVE. Yet, the moment she had the baby... my husband was up at the awkward hospital seeing what could be his son or not. He hasnt had any connection with this child the only thing the baby has of my husbands is his DNA.... We have even spent time with the baby.. Yet, its not my kid and its not my decision if hes going to be in my husbands life or not. There is so much more to why hes not in his life but thats sums it up.
I just dont get how my husband can be bashed cause of what MOST* women do to their kid at birth or even farther along. I live in the US and here alot of women AND men raise kids by them selves for whatever reason behind it. Just cause most guys do leave doesnt mean they all do cause of selfishness