People around my newborn

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Once my son is born I'm taking his father to court but he wants two days a week to be with his son but his dad left me at 7 months pregnant for another girl after we got back together when he left me 3 months pregnant and was with another girl I just feel like he's going to bring girls in and out of our sons life. And I don't want another girl around my newborn baby that I carried for 9 months when his father put me through hell and back during the pregnancy not only with girls this pregnancy is so hard for me and I'm trying my best it just hurts is there anything I can do so that he can't bring girls around my newborn baby?


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Sarah - posted on 04/16/2016




Why did you pick such a man to procreate with? I am getting really frustrated with these posts along the lines of "I carried the baby, he cheated, maybe even made another baby, or has a whole secret family, doesn't treat me well, hasn't supported me financially and he wanted me to have an abortion"
Ladies, should we get to know our partners before we even have sex? Every time you have sex, even with birth control there is a potential for pregnancy. Take control of you life and pick an excellent partner! Once baby arrives you are parents both equally entitled and equally obligated to the same things. If you think your uterus makes you more of a parent, you are incorrect.
I agree a nursing infant must stay near its food source (maybe that is why we are supposed to be living as a family before making said baby) However, if you resist dad seeing baby and dad can prove that you can either pump or he will provide formula to a judge; you may just have to hand the baby over. Hi GF are a moot point unles you can prove they are a risk to the child.

Michelle - posted on 04/16/2016




Who Dad has around when he has his time with his child is nothing you can control.
Like Evelyn said, if you are breastfeeding then Dad would most probably get a few hours a day, a few days a week.
As you child gets older, Dad will be allowed to spend more time with his child. He has just as much right as you do to have a relationship.

Ev - posted on 04/16/2016




It is understandable that you won't want a bunch of strange people around your new born child but if you take it to court, the judge will decide what is in the best interest of the child. Are you going to breast feed? Use a bottle? When it comes to breast feeding a lot of the time, a judge will give dad some time with the baby but not to have over a two day period to himself. You can not dictate terms either to the judge but you can request that no girl friends be around the baby when he has the child. It does not mean the judge won't grant the request but it does not mean it will be either. When dad has his time, it is his and unless it can be proven that the GF or GFs are a danger to the baby a judge is not going to stop that. Dad won't be able to tell you how to live your life either.

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