Permanent Guardianship

Michelle - posted on 03/12/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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We have had 2 of 4 brothers for 14 months. DHS wanted to place all 4 brothers together so, we took the other 2 in October.

Parents are Developmentally disabled. They have a great relationship with there children but are not able to care for them.

We have been asked if we want permanent guardianship? Because, DHS or the state do not want to take rights. We have been told the differences between guardianship and adoption...

I feel a bit uneasy about having the parents involved. (To many chiefs)

Visits are supervised now twice a week. I don't want to severe the relationship but I do want the boys to move on...



Any thoughts?

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Katherine - posted on 03/12/2012

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You could always meet them at McDonalds or something. That way you don't have to feel like it's a supervised visit. Unless you HAVE to meet at a certain place. Even so to keep them in their lives you could have them meet you there, or the park or wherever.........that way everyone is happy.

Michelle - posted on 03/12/2012

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Thank you for responding.

I want to do what is best for the boys. They have a good relationship so I it really is best to keep that.

However, I have been told that in many cases after a year or 2 the contact will often stop.

They have visits supervised 2x a week now. When we get guardianship it will be up to us. I definitely want the visits supervised but...Do I really want to supervise it? And then there are the bday parties, holidays etc. I do not want them to know where we live. How do we keep them involved with the kids??

Katherine - posted on 03/12/2012

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Are you thinking of adopting them? They still have a right to see their parents....unless you honestly think it's in their best interest for them not to.

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