Shelley - posted on 08/04/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )
My daughter is 19. She is gorgeous and smart , but has always been uncomfortable socializing. hard for her open up .
She started seeing a baseball player and they have be going out for 2 years. Many times she has tried to break up with him. But she always goes back because she has no friends to hang out with. 4 months ago I went to visit her, she was living with BF now , and she looked so skinny. No muscle tone at all and she used to be a gymnast so it was shocking to see her look this way so suddenly.
3 mnths ago she said that she had left him and was living with a friend who didnt do drugs or drink.last month she phned me to come pick her up and she was puking,red welts on her face , skeletal.I took her in the car and booked out of work for 2 weeks to take her to a little island that we love to camp at. She admitted her and BF were meth users. She was wonderful after a few days. Gained weight back , skin cleared, started making goal plans for her life.E GOT BACK 2 WEEKS GO. aLL IS GOOD,she stays mostly at home.
But yesterday her boyfriend shows up, I tell him to leave. He does. Leaves 3 back packs by our back door. I find them. Scales, drugs , butane torch. I phone the cops, they come , daughter freaks out. Says that is how he makes his money. Says she is going to kill us.They are still looking for him. She is here,eating,sleeping, but leaves for a couple hours at a time.We have started locking the doors,she is furious.We tlod her that she can leave rather then swear at us and be disrespectful.Truth is , we are a little scared to for our families safety.
But she was doing so good until he came back on the scene. She was working towards going to Australia in October. Getting her papers in order,passport,. I think we may have had a shot of her getting the counciling she needed. She was so open to communicating for the fist time until I called the cops.
So today I am inviting her to dinner to discuss what we are prepared to do to work with her on this if she wants help ,pay for treatment,help her get her drivers licsence, room and board while she is getting help, set up a cell phone for her, inexchange for her talking to a professional and getting tests done to see if she has an underlying mental health issue and to discuss treatment options.
If she is not ready to get help we will not be able to be the place for her to sleep and eat and then go out and do more drugs. She will have to go out and take her chances with this xboyfriend who is on the run and being charged with trafficking. She told the police that they were commonlaw!Which means that she could get charged with trafficking also.
I am just not sure how bad she has been into this drug. Could she not be addicted and I am pushing her into that direction with this stand I am about to take?