physical abuse?????

Laura - posted on 09/15/2013 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Ive been with my partner 2 years, about 6 months ago my 6 year old daughter consistently started to be unhappy about him taking her to school or bed after a few weeks I asked her why and she said it was because he shouted at her and smacked her, I asked when and she said ages ago and only once and because she was naughty, I explained he wouldn't do it again and she said he hadnt done it since and shes been absolutely fine since, no problems. But then today her dad dropped her back to me saying she had wrote in a book over the weekend that she didnt like when my parner hit her.
So how do I go about this now asking her about it, I don't want him here if he smacks her and she seemed to have gotten over that fear he was gonna hit her again. I do on occasion smack her bum, so I wonder why its such an issue for her, she loves him to bits so I cant understand, what do I do now?

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Laura - posted on 09/16/2013

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She hasnt said it since, but did write in a book she didnt like it when my parner smacked her, no ive not asked him as I think he wud be extremely upset and I can honestly say i don't think he is abusing her, however for her to write that there must be something going on either in her mind or otherwise, im not saying my daughter is lying but however yes sometimes she does exaggerate things. This is why im askibg for help, I really don't know what to do.

Michelle - posted on 09/16/2013

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Have you asked your partner? You need to get both sides of the story to find out the truth. You have said that she can exaggerate the truth sometimes so it may be best to ask the adult in this situation.

Nelida - posted on 09/16/2013

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Also I think you should settle this befor she says anything at school that would cause big problems question is it partner her step father or biological ?

Nelida - posted on 09/16/2013

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My guess is that she is a little traumatized . But I think you should ask her again if she keeps repeating this as in telling you this it must be cuz it's still going on

Laura - posted on 09/16/2013

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I do on occasion smack my daughters bum I don't see anything wrong with it, my issue is shes started saying it more, but she does over exaggerate things sometimes and I just wonder if its just because it still plays in her mind rather than it actually continuing.

Nelida - posted on 09/16/2013

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I think you should have a mommy and me day and ask her nicely what's going on that's not okay that he hit her even if it was once ! I believe that if he did it again I would report him and leave him ! It's never okay to hit a child

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