picky eater

Samantha - posted on 01/19/2012 ( 8 moms have responded )

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hi, my 22 month old boy wont eat anything i choose to give him he has always been a picky eater and for about 3 months he wont eat vegies and when i try give him meat he cringes like it disgusting, i hide meat in mash with vegies and put it in bread. or if I just give it to him like we eat it he will cry and cry. my child health care nurse told me to feed him the main meal at lunch time, but that didnt work cause he just cried and cried. I am worried and i know it has alot to do with me giving in and letting him eat what he wants, but i dont want him to be sad, its hard cause i dont want him to be unhealthy either. just yesterday i went and got a iron supplement for him. any help to what i should do?

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Samantha - posted on 01/26/2012

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he eats fruit, bicuits, yoghurt and custard. he just wont eat vegies or meat. but i just hid peas, corn, baby brocoli, carrot, and whatever meat we are having for tea in mash potaotes in 2 peices of bread. sometimes he picks them out, but not all the time. I also offer him what we are having, but maybe it's just going to take some time with Caden and i'll just keep offering him what we eat. he tried cucumber the other day, and about 2 weeks ago tried rice. but still wont eat that now. I aslo think he has a texture issue, cause when we have spaghetti bol, he picks up the pasta and puts it back on his plate and pulls a face as to say its disgusting.



I did notice once we stopped them bottle he went off most foods, but he is a very independent eater, if i try feed him something off a spoon he wont take it.



I have tried sitting him at the table and telling him he cant leave until he eats some, but he will just cry and cry i left him a couple of times there with me sitting there encouraging him for at least half a hour, i was keeping calm, but he was getting really bad. so i let him down.



He is a very anxious toddler, and loves to play. he even goes to childcare once a week and eats bearly anything they give him, but he is just happy playing outside.



With the brownies, wouldnt that be kind of defeating what you said about junk, cause he would have to eat some vegies for me to give him brownies.



I have tried the teething ring, but didnt work and he just bits the plastic on his dummy.



Appointment is made with the peads, so we will see what he says. I just what Caden to eat what we eat, i always say you dont know what your missing out on.



Also thanks for your advice, we will keep offering and see.

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wait, had another idea. sorry...so he stops crying when you feed him ice cream?



have you tried giving him a chilled teething ring or something? because cold does help swollen gums and maybe that's why he cries...worth a shot i suppose.



but i'm sure your pediatrician will find out what's up and tell you what you need to do, unless he or she tells you it's nothing and just keep doing what you're doing, which will probably be frustrating... :(

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also, have you tried making his food into neat colors and fun shapes?



another question, which may or may not be irrelevant, how long has he been off the bottle/breast? if not long, maybe he's tantruming because he doesn't want to feed himself, he still wants that other easier stuff. i know my daughter sometimes doesn't want to feed herself but i don't mind, she's only a year old and she'll let me spoon feed her.



but that's all possibilities. plus, his teeth might hurt since you did mention he's teething, in which case he might need softer foods like bananas and such.

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well there's one thing you probably should have never done, which was giving him non-nutritious things in the first place. i know most parents want to give their kids treats and such like cookies and candy, but it's not good to do that when they're so young. i'm not saying you do, but you did mention you gave him ice cream, and that is for a treat only once in a while after he's eaten all his good food, not to replace the food he should be eating. but i know you know that, so don't take it as an attack or anything, please, lol.



i don't know how much help i'd be now that your boy has gotten into the habit of not eating his food. my daughter has always loved food. sometimes i don't even know if she tastes it, she wolfs it down like there's no tomorrow. but you can't give in to his crying. you just have to keep pushing him to eat. no, you don't need to let him go off and do his own thing and "starve" as you said. in fact you need to do the opposite. make him sit there and he can't leave the table and play or whatever else he's wanting to do until he's eaten at least the majority of what you've made for him. he can't have ice cream or cookies or whatever until he's eaten the real food, and only THEN can he MAYBE have the supposedly yummy stuff.



give me a second, i just had a great idea. someone else had posted something about getting a picky kid to eat by hiding healthy food in their "junk food." i'll try to find some recipes for you that will hopefully make him eat without him even knowing it.

Samantha - posted on 01/25/2012

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ok, well i took your advice and it didnt work. first day was pasta he didnt seem faced at all having no tea. i did not give in. and then the other 2 nights he cried constantly for a hour after tea and didnt even touch his tea. after that hour he was on and off crying till he had to go to bed. I am going to take him to the peads. i dont see how we could make him eat when he was so upset, but i did not give in. He is teething aswell so that dont help. thanks for your advice but i am definetly not going to stave my child.

Samantha - posted on 01/20/2012

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thanks for your advice, i know it something i must do. i always said when he was a baby that i would make sure he is as healthy as possible. but he has tottal control when it comes to food. he used to love his mashed up vegies i even used to give it to him for lunch sometimes, but sometimes he wouldnt eat it so i would just leave him to sit there and cry, but i would give in and give him icecream or something. which i always new wasnt right but i thought i was being a bad mum cause i was leaving him to cry. but i will give it ago. will update you on how i go.

thanks again.

Chrystal - posted on 01/19/2012

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I'm sorry if this comes out harsh but he's going to be pretty sad when he's not getting enough vitamins and minerals to run and play because you're not putting your foot down and making sure he's eating the way he should be. Give him well balanced meals and if he chooses not to eat then so be it he can get down and meal time will come around again he's not going to let himself starve he will eat eventually. Improve the nutrition in the foods he already likes say if he likes mac and cheese add pureed squash into the sauce or if he likes spaghetti add pureed carrots and beans. Try sweeter and milder veggies like carrots, squash, red bell peppers, sweet potatoes, or zucchini. If he doesn't like meat much try other sources or protein like beans, cheese, eggs, or tofu. There is a whole world of food for him to explore keep introducing new foods and remember that it can take many times trying a food for a child to like it so if he disliked something the first time he might like it the 3rd time. I know it's hard to see them upset but by giving him good eating habits you are doing what is best for him in the long run.

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